How to deal with an evil step children?
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Jodi - posted on 04/21/2014
Well, I think if you believe they are "evil" you should take a step or three back and get out of their lives. That's an awful thing to call a child. Maybe they are misbehaving, maybe there are issues, but to call the children of the person you are supposed to love "evil" is just evil in itself. The children are the innocent parties in this situation.
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â« Shawnn âªâ«â« - posted on 12/15/2015
OH, Ms. Kristin...How like someone to jump into an OLD post, see that it IS over 18 months old, and then apply your judgment to the responses!
I stand by mine. NO CHILD is inherently EVIL. YOUR son included.
When adults who are bringing themselves into a situation with children can do nothing more than say that a child, ANY CHILD, is evil...my recommendation is ALWAYS for that adult to look to themselves for a solution as to why a child may be acting out, or defiant. Children can feel love, and hate. TRUST ME. They KNOW when their step parent doesn't like them.
In your particular situation, if your son has anti social personality disorder, then he has a disorder that doesn't allow him to interact well with others. Sorry, my dear, but that does NOT make your son EVIL! It makes him a confused young man who needs help and support from his parents and medical team. Good luck with your life. With an outlook such as "My son is EVIL"...you may need it.
Ev - posted on 12/15/2015
Kristin--This post is over a year old. But that is beside the point I know. Kids are not evil. It is the goings on in the life of a child that may make them appear that way. Some kids are typical. Some have issues they deal with. But that does not make them evil by any means. If a step mom or dad comes into the picture a lot of how a step parent is treated may depend on how they embrace the kids or not. You can not tell me that kids are going to give respect to a step parents just because that person was chosen by one of the parents to be in their lives. They should be respectful to that person but respect must be earned. TRust must be earned. A person that does not get on the level of the kids and at least tries to be something to those kids is not going to get anything good out of the situation. It takes work and effort on all parts to make a blended family work.
I have two kids and they neither one were perfect. My son gave me a lot of issues over time to deal with but he was never evil. So in the end of all, do not go saying all step kids are evil when you do not know what is going on. THis was just a simple question with no explanation.
Sarah - posted on 12/15/2015
My kids are far from perfect, angelic, holy or flawless. Would I ever characterize a child as evil....NEVER
And I have met some real whoppers over the years. I have met psychotic children, bipolar children, even sociopathic children. Evil, no way.
Do kids sometimes benefit from therapeutic placement? Medication? Long term care? Sure. Does that make them evil?
I deleted a portion of my post as it described the most awful behavior I have ever dealt with in my career. I don't want to sensationalize this issue but I am passionate about kids, lost kids, good kids, sick kids and well kids. No child is inherently evil .
Kristin- I do deal with it every day...
Kristindale - posted on 12/15/2015
I completely understand your question and the rest of the ladies who responded must have perfect children. Your ignorance is heartbreaking. You have no clue what some of us go through! You wouldn't last a day in my home! My 12 year old son has anti-social personality disorder and yes he is the very definition of EVIL. I pray that none of you perfect goody goody's ever have to face the hell I live with on a daily basis! As for the original poster, like I said I think I know what you mean. There are options depending on the situation. Has he or she ever been hospitalized? We are in the process of putting our son in a therapeutic foster home.
Ev - posted on 04/21/2014
I have to agree with the ladies here. I get a very bad impression of you with said question. Apparently no matter what monsters kids can be, they are not evil. Its how you treat them that they will in turn treat you. You can not expect to go into a marriage with kids in the mix and expect a happy blended family unit. You can not expect those kids to like you right off or even love you. It takes time to build a relationship like that. Also, they were there before you entered the picture and if they are hellions like you are saying they are, why did you marry their father then?
Liz - posted on 04/21/2014
A child is _never_ evil. If their _behaviour_ is evil, then there are ways to address this though this can only ever be with full consultation and agreement with their natural parent, your spouse.
The very first thing that needs amending in your situation is your own attitude towards those kids, as otherwise this notion of yours that they are evil will prejudice you against everything they do and say.
I have no idea what those kids are like, but I've just formed a very strong impression of you from that one question.
â« Shawnn âªâ«â« - posted on 04/21/2014
CHILDREN ARE NOT INHERENTLY EVIL!!!
How would you feel if you read the reverse written by your stepchildren: HOW TO DEAL WITH A BITCH STEPMOTHER?
Without further info, that's all I can say. As with ANY relationship with children, you get out what you put in. When you so obviously dislike your stepchildren, can you blame them for disliking you in return?
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