Cindy - posted on 02/23/2014 ( 3 moms have responded )
Hi, I'm going to try to make this as brief as possible, but I'm at my wits end. My fiance has a 12 year old girl and a 7 year old boy. The main one I have a problem with is the 7 year old boy. I'm a big kid lover, always have been, and feeling so hateful towards him makes me feel like an awful person! I've never raised a boy so I'm not sure what is normal, but he sneezes about every 20 minutes, about 3 in a row and blows thick snot onto his hands, it's so nasty. If nobody tells him to go wash his hands, he will wipe it on himself or the couch, etc...also, he poops and never flushes the toilet, and doesn't even wipe himself all the way! The other kids are always saying they smell him. He's pretty overweight also and always wanted food, constantly. I had to stop packing him lunch for school and giving him breakfast because he would go to school and have a 2nd breakfast and eat his lunch on the way to school and get a school lunch also. If he finds anything to eat he scarfs it down before anybody can take it away from him, and when he finds out what we are having for dinner he runs around going, "Yum, Whoo hoo, Taco's (for example), I'm going to eat them all." He's obsessed with food! Also, he's behind for his age. He's 7 and acts and talks like a 4 year old. He can't pronounce anything correctly and talks with mush-mouth. Plus he questions everything I do!! Why did you stop at that light? Are we going the right way to Nanny's? And he calls everybody else and everything else, "stupid." I try to remember that he has not had the best life until now. His mother hasn't been around, and he hasn't been taught a lot of things he should have been. His father baby's him and dresses and bathes him still, and when I bring up my frustration about some of the things he does, he gets annoyed and says, "Well he's only 7." Or he will say, "I know, but he's my baby..." Oh, and also he sucks his fingers every minute and then puts his hands everywhere. I think I would feel different if he acted sweeter about things, but just acts entitled all the time, and loud...and rowdy...I don't know what to do! Just looking at him annoys me! My daughter is not perfect, but she was raised better and is more respectful (she's 10) and will help out with anything around the house. When we ask either of his kids to do anything at all, they start throwing tantrums and yelling. I don't want this to ruin our relationship, but how can I help this situation or learn to deal with it better??? Any serious comments are welcome and appreciated!!!!