Tamra - posted on 10/04/2014 ( 2 moms have responded )
I had an explosive encounter today and I'm not sure what if anything I did wrong. I took my kids to the indoor play area at an indoor mall and I was at the time watching my younger son so I didn't see the encounter that my eldest child had (daughter who's 7). But she came up to me with her friend and they were both saying that a boy was pushing them and spitting (blowing raspberries) not listening etc. I'm a soft spoken person who doesn't like to have to confront anyone but I tried to put a stern face and I walked over to the boy (5 or 6?) and asked if he would play nice. He said she (my daughter) pushed; to which my daughter replied (I only was pushing him back!); to which I calmly told both my daughter and then the boy not to push. So I walked back to my younger son and sat down and I thought that was that. Well after a few minutes the mom comes irate with her son. I had my baby in my lap and with a voice full of anger asks if I told her son not to push. I said yes and she explodes on me saying that he said my daughter was pushing not him. I was taken aback but tried to reply that her friend also saw him pushing but she shouted over me saying don't talk to my son you talk to me not my son! She kept shouting this while I tried to calmly say something.( she was a big woman and looked angry enough to hurt me). I finally just said I am talking to you not him, but at that she left and went back to where she was sitting and then eventually left with her family.
So after all that I feel terrible and feel like that was all so unnecessary, and I never want this to happen again...
What is the proper way to handle rude kids that you don't know? I thought it was ok to calmly and gently talk to the child if the parent was not intervening and not in sight, and if they continue or it's more serious then find the kids parents?