How to deal with daughters heartache

Diane Dodge - posted on 01/20/2014 ( no moms have responded yet )

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I have 2 daughters in college, 22 she is getting her masters this spring, I will call her A, and K is 19, a sophomore. Both have recently have had emotional heartache, and it is affecting me so much! I feel like I am living it with them. Both are at least an hour away and it's all I can do not to jump in my car just to give them a hug. A has been using a dating website to meet men and she has meet three over the past year and a half. The last one, they talked/skyped for 3 weeks before meeting they spent New Year's Eve together. Then I get "mom I like him soooooo much, he's so nice he wants me to be his girlfriend" then I get these pics and texts of how happy she is and I say, be careful to jump in too fast.......then I get the text " don't ask me about him anymore, it's over, he says he doesn't want to be in a relationship" then the tears, questioning herself. I did jump in my car and went and spent a few hours with her. But I know she is sad and I can feel it everyday. I know she is ok and moving on. Then there is K she has had a couple of dates with a guy that a friend fixed her up with, she has not really had a steady boyfriend since early high school. Anyway this guy drives 2.5 hours to spend a couple of days with her this weekend and then I get that sick feeling, I text to see how it went......she calls crying, she is not a cryer, and says" I looked at his phone and read his text messages and he had been taking to some girls" " I asked him about it and he says I'm am crazy and now he won't return my calls" know I now that that you probably shouldn't read guys text messages if you aren't prepared to deal with what you find out. But what are girls supposed to do in this age of too much information and technology? And how can I help them without letting this get to me so. I am an emotional wreck, I can't do this for the rest of my life, I love them soooo much, but it's destroying me. I want to help them but I guess I have to let them figure this stuff out for themselves.

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