how to deal with lazy depressed adolescent who does not want to complete assignment for the long term

Cindy - posted on 11/25/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )

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My boy is 17. He is smart. He will never do his homework for any class and keep getting bad grades. I ask him if his homework is done, he said he did it but grades reflected no homework turned in. I ask him to do his work, he got mad. I sat and watched him to complet his work, he gott more mad. He was diagnosed with depression, but he seems to be better on his mood for the last three mosnths. He always seems tired and angry and sleepy. The only time he is fully awake is when he is with his computer. What should I do? He is driving me crazy mentally and physically.

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Cindy - posted on 12/02/2012

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he was with a therarpist or 3yrs. he was with the academic counselor or 6mos. i talked to school counselor principal they all helpless. now i m recently let him stay with my sister and brother n law see if a male role model would help. it helped a little bit. but he is lazy sleep in morning and not sleep at nite. always want to be on the computer. the upset part is a little better. but do not do school work and rather get Fs. i m so stressful. but helpless.

Ariana - posted on 11/25/2012

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If he has depression is he going into any councelling? I would get him into some form of councelling if he isn't.



As far as homework at 17 it's kind of up to him if he does it or not. I mean you can enforce a consequence for his grades falling to a certain amount (no computer unless grades are a certain amount?) but even that might not work if his actions are due to his depression. He may not know how to cope with life during those periods of time.



Can you sign him up for a class? Send him to a youth group to hang out once a week? If he's just sitting at home sleeping or playing on the computer that's not helpful to depression either. You can put him into martial arts, which is really good for self-esteem.



Either way I would definitely get him a councellor. For grades you might just tell him if he's not getting his work done he's obviously wasting to much time using the computer and that will have to go. At this age though it's pretty much up to him what he's going to do.

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