Caroline - posted on 09/19/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )
Are there any mothers out there that have delt with or have been dealing with your ex boyfriend/husband who is the father of your first child being mentally abusive? I need advice. Please. To me, the relationship ended because he was mentally abusive, controlling, showed no sign of trust in me at all, he has alot of anger problems, and seems to have no respect towards women with the way that he talks about them. Aside from him being a good person 25% of the time, the other 75% of the time I got comments made to me when I was pregnant such as, "If you dont give the baby my last name, I wont father it." "Your such a bitch" "You always choose everyone and everything before me" "Your such a retard" etc... After our son was born, I still get nasty comments said to me such as, "You ruined my life" "Drop the child support and i'll be civil with you" "I hope you get shit on" "Your crazy and so is your family" etc... There is SO MUCH MORE but thats a small version of it... In between since I got pregnant he has apologized and said I wont do these things anymore if your not mean to me anymore. We were back and forth so many times however recently, I finally got the strength to remove myself from the relationship after he grabbed me and tried ripping my son off of me. Even removing myself from the relationship, he still manages to make horrible comments to me any chance he can, and tell others of how Im this horrible crazy girl that just takes his money and everything else and it really does hurt my feelings. I dont want to have to walk on eggshells and constantly be scared of being put down for the rest of my life since we share a child. I dont mant my child to be put in the middle either. He'll use our child whenever he is mad at me by not picking him up on time, or completley ditching out on having him all together because he wants to go party instead because he says he "works so much" on the weekdays he deserves to go out. I dont know what to tell myself to not let the nasty things he says to me get to me??? And I dont know how to make certain that my child never gets put in the middle or anything he shouldnt experience??? This is the most difficult, stubborn, insensitive man I have ever come across in my life and I wish I wouldve known this before I ever became a couple with him.. But how do I deal with him from this point on??? I just wanna be happy with my child and not sad over his comments, and all the people he sleeps with and all the horrible things he does anymore. I dont wanna be scared of him anymore..