how to deal with stress

Felicia - posted on 05/16/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )

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I'm a single mother nd I have 17 month old twins and sme days I cn gt through the days without being stress out r depress. but between gtting off of wrking nd hving to run behing two toddlers nd cleaning up a mess up house by myself I gt stress out a little behind it. cn anybdy tell me a way to deal with stress nd depression too

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Felicia - posted on 05/17/2013

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thank yu Cecilia I think if I cn just clear my mind nd stp being mad at my children father for wlking out their life nd stping thinking that everything is falling on me at one time I was doing the schedule thing at first that's hw I made it through a yr with the twins I need to gt back on my schedule but the only thing I hate is cleaning up nd it gt mess back up in a minute I want to carry them outside after they gt out of daycare nd let them play so they cant mess up after I clean up but the pollen mess with me If I can just gt them to stp messing up the house ill feel much better

Cecilia - posted on 05/16/2013

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First learn to give yourself some slack. You're only human. I learned very quickly that if i was doing all the chores every day I was ready to crack. So I wrote a chart of what chores would be done on what day. This kept me from scrubbing a toilet every night at 2am. Let their room be a mess to a degree. If they can walk through it without killing themselves, it's fine to clean it once a week.

If you leave the dishes in the sink for a few hours- it's okay. I've actually gone to bed and left them and did them while i made breakfast.

If you can find someone to babysit every once in awhile to give you a break, take it. Even if it's 2 times a month and you just go out have a cup of coffee and come back home- it helps. I always used my babysitter time to sleep. My neighbor would come over and play with them while i was in the other room. My payment was nothing more than some coffee, baked goods and convo when i got up.

If you are truly feeling depressed you can call your primary doctor and they can give you medication if needed. Also see if you can get in to see a therapist. I know it will be hard to fit that in but it might be well worth your time. Some therapists will allow you to bring the children with you.

Remember to take one day at a time and know that it is possible to get through it.

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