How to deal with talk back and lack of respect from my 8 and 10 year old daughters?

Kelly - posted on 08/21/2013 ( 1 mom has responded )




i am desperate to get my girls to respect me and to stop the talk back and arguing. School just started and I wonder if that has triggered it, but it started prior to last week. when I engage with my girls, my husband and I then tend to argue and that does not feel good, especially in the presence of the girls. I should just walk away from the girls when their attitudes flair, but my instinct is to engage. I feel if I ignore, that empowers them to continue and not stop this behavior. what do others do?


Ev - posted on 08/22/2013




Arguments with their dad is not helping to set the tone you want to set for your daughters. It shows disrespect. Therefore, the example they are seeing is telling them this is how people are with each other and it is okay to treat people as such. You all need to sit down and talk about this and work out a solution that sets rules and consequences for this behavior. Walk away when their attitudes flair up, but always go back and tell them that behavior is not allowed and start to give them consequences. Also start to talk to your husband and discuss things rather than argue. And do this in private. Calmly tell him what is troubling you and your thoughts on it and try to keep the anger to a minimum but tell him that things are making you mad. And then LISTEN to his side of it and come to some sort of middle ground. If your girls see your attitudes to each other change then theirs may change too. Also they are at the age to try this kind of behavior as well.

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