How to discipline a 16 month old hitter,kicker and bitter?

Alease - posted on 01/30/2013 ( 1 mom has responded )




I have a 16month old and she is very aggressive she hits and kicks when she's upset I've tried time out but she doesn't quite understand what's happening i am a first time mom and really don't have a clue in how to handle this any advice?


Denikka - posted on 01/30/2013




Whenever my kids got violent with me, I would take the offending body part (leg/foot if they kicked, hand/arm if they hit), hold it firmly, say *NO. We do not hit/kick* and then place the child down and away from me. I would then ignore the child for a short period of time, usually a couple minutes. Get up and walk away from them if you have to.
If they threw a fit, I would walk away until the fit was over. If they followed me, tried gabbing my pant legs, etc, I would move them back away from from me. Sometimes I would have to pick them up to move them, which I always did with minimal contact (no cuddle hold, just under the arms, away from my body. Just enough to move them a few feet away) set them down and stay away from them.
When they were calm, I would allow them back over to me, say *we do not hit/kick. You gave mommy an owwie (pointing at the spot they hit). Kiss better* (a kiss would basically be a *sorry* until they could actually say it)

At that age, the premise is about the same for any negative behaviour (difference between negative behaviour and curious behaviour. Hitting is negative, playing with something they shouldn't is more curious. Curious behaviour requires less discipline, more distraction.) With negative behaviour, you remove the child from the problem area (in this case, you).
It may take time. It may take a couple of times in a row. It may take quite a while for the child to calm down. That's fine. It's okay to let your child cry sometimes, even if you're the one causing the tears (I know how terrifying that can be for a first time parent :P)

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