Olga - posted on 12/05/2011 ( 38 moms have responded )
I'm a stepmum and have been with my husband for 4 years, we have had proper access for about a year now. The BioMum absolutely hates me and blames me for everything. She's been in a very happy relationship with her partner for about 3 years. We all get on well with him. Where as she has never spoke to me to my face, only by phone to ask for my husband. She constantly gives me dirty looks when I'm present at change over, tells my husband that she's going to "smash my head in" etc. Absolute hostility. Worst part is that she bad mouths myself n my husband to/in front the child. He is 5yo, very wonderful boy who I love dearly and care for greatly. I have complete aknoledgment that she is his mother and I have no intentions of taking her place. Is there anything I can try to do to ease off such hostility? Maybe write a letter explaining where we stand. Altho my husband and his father have tried to talk sense into her, the bitterness she has is overwhelming.