How to end Breastfeeding?

Grace - posted on 12/19/2010 ( 14 moms have responded )

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HELP! My daughter will be 2 in February and she will not stop breastfeeding. It's getting to that point where she just needs to quit for both our sakes but I'm not sure how! Any advice would be extremely helpful! THANK YOU!

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How often are you feeding now?
It's not a good idea to just stop abruptly, as you could end up with sore, engorged breasts~. It's also better for your daughter that it's a gradual process.
Just start by dropping a feed at a time, usually the one she's least interested in. Substitute a cup,perhaps, but make sure the cuddles continue. After a while (few days, week, depending on how things go) drop another feed and so on.

You might need to express a bit, just to relieve any pressure, but just a bit, not enough to increase supply!

As Justine says, you can talk to your little one about these changes. Never stop the cuddles!

Justine - posted on 12/19/2010

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I breastfed until my son was 2. I stopped the night of his 2nd birthday. I prepared him for it by telling him for a month or so beforehand that big boys drink from cups and don't have the breast any more and that he would be a big boy when he turned 2. I had started cutting back gradually on feedings and from about a year old he was only having it at night before bed or if he was sick or really upset. He gave it up without a fight and accepted that he was a big boy now. We did not change anything else about his routine at night except substituting a cup of water for the milk. I still cuddled him while he drank to maintain the closeness he was used to at bedtime. He is 5 now.

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Emily, I must have phrased it wrongly - I meant that it's better for her daughter if she stops breastfeeding GRADUALLY. It's completely the mother's choice when to wean, and if she feels that the time is right now, then the time is right now.

Sudden weaning is not good for the emotional health of mum AND baby.

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I completely agree with Justine and Kathy. Unfortunately i had to stop breast feeding my twins. When they hit 7mos my supply decreased by half so I weaned the best I could to get them on formula. One thing I did differently to help my supply dry up was put cabbage leaves in my bra. I kow this sounds rediculous but it helped expidite the process. The cold leaves relieve soreness and there is a substance in the cabbage that is released that has anti-inflammatory properties. Change the leaves every couple of hours or when the cabbage wilts. Don't use the cabbage if you are allergic.

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Kelly - posted on 12/28/2010

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You as the mother decide when it is the right time. That said, why not think about it. She will only be this age once. Are you sure you are ready to end this connection you have with her? IF you are sure, then follow all the good advice above. Gradually does seem to work best. My girls during/after weaning seemed to do well if I would lift my shirt and allow them to lay at my breast but not breastfeeding. Still comforting, still reassuring that you are not taking away the cuddling. Maybe try that?

Sneha - posted on 12/21/2010

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thankz ladies u all have put my mind to rest...i was wondering for how long to breastfeed my baby, he's 17 months old and i was being told by most of my friends to stop feedin him but now i feel i wait for some more time before tryin to stop breastfeeding him

Amanda - posted on 12/21/2010

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Send her off to grandmas and grandpas for the weekend, when she gets home and asks to breastfeed (and she will), tell her they are broken LOL. Worked like a charm with all 3 of my kids. No tears.



I would not do this for a child under 2 years old, but all 3 of mine handled it like champs at 2 years old and a bit older.

Angie - posted on 12/21/2010

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im having the same problem iv tried to stop before but it went bad!! thats really good advice im defenily going to try it!!

*Lisa* - posted on 12/20/2010

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I weaned my son at 12 months. I intended to only breastfeed for 6 months but the time kind of flew by! Anyway, my son was waking constantly at night and only falling back to sleep if breastfed so my doctor's advice was to gradually wean him off. Mentally I had made myself so anxious about weaning but it was so much easier than I thought. Just 2 kind of rough days and a few rough nights and he was sleeping much better and was much happier. He also started eating more which was good because he was very light and not growing. I was feeding him 4 feeds in the day plus at night to get him back to sleep (which became a bad habit). So I first started only feeding him in the morning and then before bed. I expressed into a straw cup which he drank sometimes... it was hard but we got there. Then when he was comfortable with the cup (maybe 3 days later), I stopped all day feeds which was easier. Stopping the night feeds were harder. I had to cuddle him and give him water from the cup and just resist the urge to breastfeed. He was fine by the 3rd night and slept the whole 10 hours without waking for the first time ever. I didn't find that my bond with him decreased at all and he started being more interested in food which increased his weight and productivity (as well as my peace of mind).
Anyway, sorry for the essay. Good luck :)

Emily - posted on 12/19/2010

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No, you didn't phrase anything wrongly. I completely agree with you! I was responding to the original post. :)

Emily - posted on 12/19/2010

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Not trying to be argumentative, but how is it for her sake that she stops breastfeeding? The natural/biological weaning age for children is minimum 2 1/2 years old. So from your daughter's perspective, she's just doing what she needs to do. Breastmilk continues to be a rich source of nutrition and immune support for her.

I think allowing kids to self-wean is the easiest and most natural, by far. However, if you do intend to wean, please do it slowly and gradually. Take away one nursing session at a time. If she needs it for sleep, have someone else do the sleep routine. Best of luck.

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