How to explain a divorce to young children?

Laura - posted on 04/29/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )




My husband and I are recently separated. His decision, not mine-I was willing to seek counseling, and work on it, he was not. How should we tell our young children (4 1/2 yr old twins)? I don't want to assign blame, but on the other hand, I have to deal with the fallout on a daily basis, not him so how do we do this? He is in another city right now having started a new job (this was planned before the split), and the kids and I are moving there in June. We have 5 weeks to get used to being on our own, but the kids expect to be living as a family when we move. Help.


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Louise - posted on 04/29/2012




Sarah is spot on! You must reassure them that daddy still loves them but he wont live with them any more. Then look on the bright side of things for them. Tell them that they will be able to stay at daddies house and mummies house which means two bedrooms to play in. Kids are thickle, as long as they are fed, loved and spoiled rotten they are fine!

It is you that will fall apart here not them. Make sure you have time for you to grieve for your marriage and get your head around being a single mum.

Sarah - posted on 04/29/2012




I would just tell them that Mommy and Daddy aren't in love anymore and have decided to live apart once you move. Make sure to tell them that you both still love them very much and nothing will change that and that you will both still be their Mommy and Daddy. In this day and age where so many parents separate or divorce or are single parents, I don't think it's as hard for many kids to understand. It seems to be fast becoming the norm nowadays.

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