Raye - posted on 03/09/2015 ( 8 moms have responded )
My mother-in-law just doesn't get that my decision not to give birth is not because I dislike children. I just didn't want one coming out of my body. I have no problems with kids. I feel it has been a blessing that I didn't have kids of my own, because I am able to devote my time and energy toward my husband and his two precious kids. We get along great. I love them and they love me.
So, here's an example of what she does: We were on a family vacation, and I woke up and sat down to breakfast at the table with the two that are now my step-kids and three of their cousins. She made a comment something like... "Well how does it feel? You don't like kids but you just ate breakfast with five of them." I tried explaining again, but she didn't get it. Because she kept making these kind of comments, before I married her son I wrote her an e-mail trying to spell it out for her. She said then that she knows I love them and she understood. She hadn't mentioned for a while so I had hoped that we were over that, but obviously she still doesn't understand. On Friday she made another comment about how well I get along with the kids, and how much I do for them is just amazing considering I didn't even want children. I keep trying to explain I just didn't want them coming out of my body, but she just doesn't get the distinction.
The first paragraph of this post is very close to what I wrote to her. So you tell me if I'm not explaining it clearly. Is it so hard to understand that I can actually like/love children even though I didn't want to give birth to any?