Jennifer - posted on 05/30/2012 ( 12 moms have responded )
I am a mother to an 11 1/2 month old beautiful girl. She is a such a wonderful, easy going soul, and I am currently 11 weeks pregnant with our second. Since I found out I was pregnant ( a surprise, but welcomed one) I feel SO much anger and resentment for my husband. He barely helped with any of the night feedings, or nightly anything with my first, and I'm terrified he'll be the same with our second. He said "It was just so tough to wake up in the middle of the night" Ya, no kidding, but you do what is necessary for your children. I've just returned to work, and so we are 'attempting' to split night time duties as my daughter tends to wake. Well if its his night and she wakes, he immediately gets angry and cannot comfort her because hes just pissed that he is awake. So I end up taking over, as she wont stop crying. I am beyond terrifed that he's going to be the same with our second and I'll be a permanent zombie caring for a 1 1/2 yr old, and a newborn. Kids wake up at night, for years, but he doesn't realize that. I cannot and will not be a sole caregiver, with him living under the same roof. Its like I'm the parent, and he only helps if its absolutely necessary, which isn't often anymore, cause I've given up asking. Theres always something else that needs to be done. How about spending time with our daughter, so she wont cry in the middle of the night, because its him and not me. Sorry for the ramble but I honestly feel I wont be able to forgive him for not sharing in the responsiblity of raising our children. Any advice, similar situations, etc, please share.