How to get 12 year old son to do better in school

Alnisa - posted on 01/08/2016 ( 5 moms have responded )

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How to get my 12 year old to do better in school is currently getting bad grades and no matter what I do or say is not taking it seriously

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Alnisa - posted on 01/08/2016

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You are absolutely correct I think he is being lazy he don't want to study and he is constantly on his tablet and Facebook I think it's about time I take his TV and have it away thank you so much for the great advice

Jodi - posted on 01/08/2016

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In my house, school is their job. Every single person in my house has a job. I have a job (currently it is as a teacher, but previously it has been as a stay at home mother, and a business woman, and various other things over the years). My husband has a job. Therefore, my children have jobs. And we ALL do chores in the house. Society requires us all to be contributors. We should all, also, be active learners. They are discussions I have had with my children from a young age. I don't accept less, and never have. I don't expect them to bring home an A in every subject - here in Australia, performing to standard is a C. I actually don't focus on grades. I focus on effort. I understand they will have strengths and weaknesses, and things will occasionally not go great, and that is ok. But making the EFFORT is what is important. Effort will generally bring satisfactory grades, but sometime, if it is in an area of weakness, it may not and it may need additional work.

Reward the effort, not the grade. If you reward the grade, some kids just give up because they feel they can't meet the expectations no matter how hard they try. Some kids will always be a D in maths......they just struggle. Some will always be a D in Art because they suck at drawing. I have a student who is a D student, not for lack of trying, just because he honestly struggles. We work with him best we can, but he never quite meets the standard. But I reward him for effort ALL the time so he still makes every effort he can.

American - posted on 01/08/2016

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In my home school is the most important aspect of their lives until they graduate. No buts about it. I take everything away until grades come up and that means they have more time to study. I call school and talk to teachers and hold my kids accountable to those teachers as to why they are failing....bad test scores...he's not studying....missing assignments....he's just being lazy. This worked for me but if I notice grades falling it usually means it's because they got lazy and would rather play games and surf Facebook or they are having some sort of social issue. Either way it is unacceptable because their only job til they graduate is school.

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