How to get a 16 month old to stop nursing?

Starla - posted on 04/06/2012 ( 9 moms have responded )

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Any one got any good ideas on how to get a 16 month old to stop nursing, and how do you keep from getting engorged?

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~♥Little Miss - posted on 04/06/2012

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You may not want to hear this, but it doesn't sound like she is quite ready to stop. It would be best if she is getting milk from a cup at least, but as long as she is eating plenty and yogurt and cheese, i am not sure that you would need to supplement further. I could be wrong though. Is it that you are just done with bfing? I stopped at 15 months...I sort of force weened my daughter. A week after I stopped, I sort of regretted it. Now I wish I had gone until 2, but I completely understand wanting to stop. It sort of takes over your whole life.

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Dove - posted on 04/09/2012

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Personally I think that force weaning her when she isn't ready could actually increase the issues you are trying to solve by wanting to wean her. Nursing only 3 times/day is most likely (granted, I'm no expert) not the reason she isn't sleeping through the night or not wanting to stay w/ anyone else. It's normal (though possibly extreme) attachment to you.

Random - posted on 04/09/2012

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Nurse only enough to relieve the pressure. (Why do you want to wean her?) ETA: I read one of your replies explaining a bit about why you want to stop. Here's the thing. You don't have to believe in child-led weaning, but you don't have to speed the process along to take a matter of weeks either. You can nurse her on demand, for less and less time each day. If she's already down to three sessions a day, you're halfway there. Patience.

Starla - posted on 04/09/2012

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Thanks, I know that was hard. I may have to do that, but I'm hopeing it won't come to that.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 04/09/2012

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I literally just stopped. I rocked her to sleep and cuddled her. It was not easy, she and I were both crying together. It sucked.

Starla - posted on 04/09/2012

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Thanks,She does eat plenty of other cheese and yogurt. I have tried all kinds of milk and i've just decided she isn't going to drink it at least for now. Yes, that is kinda of it I'm ready to quit. Pluse I'm afraid the longer i wait the harder it is going to be to stop, i don't want to be nursing a 5 yr old! I know i will be sad when i quit, i wasn't able to nurse my oldest and I'm very happy that I have had no problems this time. But it does take over your life, and between nursing keeping her out of everything and homeschooling my son i can't keep up with the basic house cleaning which is driving me nuts. Also, she is the biggest moma's baby every, which i love that in some ways. But also i would realy like to be able to take a bath, make a quick run to the store, and enjoy church because she will not stay with anyone for very long and sometimes not at all. And also she still doesn't sleep through the night and I think it is moslty because she is still nursing. How did you force wing your baby?

Starla - posted on 04/06/2012

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I have been working on quiting and I have got her down to nursing about 3 times a day. But she don't take bottles and doesn't like to drink milk from a he sippy cup. So I'm just not sure how to get her off the last 3 feedings. And I'm starting to get engorged some.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 04/06/2012

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You don't keep from getting engorged. You can use cold cabbage leafs on your bra to help dry them up and will help for the discomfort, but engorging is part of the process of drying up.



You can keep BFing, but if you want to quit, start weening her feeding times. If you give her bottles, increase them.

Bonnie - posted on 04/06/2012

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How often is your child feeding? If he/she is feeding often and then suddenly you go down to one or two feedings, you are going to get very engorged. It's based on supply and demand, so if you are down to one or two feedings, there won't be as much milk being produced.



For engorgement, try warm showers and/or placing green cabbage leaves in your bra.

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