How to get my 4 year old to stop wetting his pants

Kimberly - posted on 07/06/2009 ( 3 moms have responded )

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Hi all.



I could use some advice. After probably a whole year of no accidents at all (my son was potty trained by 3), my son is wetting his pants almost every day (sometimes more than once) because he is "too busy playing" to get to the bathroom. We have tried just about everything -- negative reinforcement, positive reinforcement, near constant reminders. He seems to have no shame/embarrassment or regrets about it, other than that it gets him in trouble with us. When I ask him why he wet his pants, he always just shrugs and says "I was too busy". The REALLY annoying thing as sometimes he does it while he is watching TV. Ugh!



Any thoughts on how to stop this? It has been going on for 3 or 4 months now.



Thanks!

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Christine - posted on 01/16/2013

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Hi~I know this is an old post. It almost like this post was written by myself. I would like to know if the problem was resolved and if so at what age?

Laura - posted on 07/06/2009

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Okay, she obviously wasn't that good of a baby and trained at 2 months. Make that a couple months after 2 years old.

Laura - posted on 07/06/2009

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My daughter went through this a little too. She was potty trained at just over 2 months and did really well but then at four started getting distracted and had accidents. She would have these accidents at school especially at the end of school when they had recess and she would be running around with a wet spot after school (we walk to school so then we had time to play after on the play ground) so obviously we had to go home right away. She was never embarrased either as a little girl. It seemed to happen most when winter was finally over and she was too busy to come inside or when school started and she had a new routine. I try not to be little her, it does still happen occassionally at the age of 9 and she is at least coming home and changing. I remind her that she needs to pay attention and get inside to the bathroom but I think if there's too much reminding from me that she'll stop thinking about it herself. I think that growth sperts might affect it, routine changes maybe but my general feel is that it's something that they need to understand about their own bodies because only they know when they need to go. You can make him clean up his own clothes by hand, if he wets himself while watching tv then no more tv for however long. I would try the natural consequences of cleaning up his clothes and himself and really try not to get mad or emotional about it. Good luck, I do think that maybe some kids just have a harder time being able to feel well enough ahead of time but when there is no concern for sitting in it then that's when we have to get creative as moms.

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