How to get my baby to sleep without her swing!

Reema - posted on 04/04/2012 ( 38 moms have responded )

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My baby girl is now 10 weeks old, she refuses to sleep anywhere but her swing. She will also sleep in our arms and in her car seat when the car is moving and that is it. I have tried for the last week to get her to at least nap in her crib, she wakes up within minutes screaming! Is it too early for me to to try to change her swing attachment? Help!

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Krista - posted on 04/04/2012

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Heh -- if only we knew then what we know now, huh? I went through the exact same thing, but it was when my son was several months old, so it was REALLY hard to break.



I'd recommend a few things. First, do you swaddle her? Sometimes babies just like the cozy feeling of the swing, more than the motion itself. I'm a big fan of the Kiddopotamus swaddler. It keeps them from inadvertently flinging their arms around, which is what wakes them up.



What I would do is swaddle her, and put a hot water bottle filled with warm tap water in her crib. Then, rock her until she's asleep, or at least close to it. Stand up with her, still swaying side to side, and slowly walk over to the crib. Reach down with one arm and take the hot water bottle off of her sheets. Then very gently place her down.



She was probably waking up because she was going from enclosed and warm (i.e. your arms) to open and cold (her crib). By swaddling her, the swaddle blanket will retain your warmth and your scent, and pre-heating her crib a little will also help prevent any shocking changes in temperature.



Good luck!

Molly - posted on 04/04/2012

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Just keep her in the swing for now for the sake of your sanity. She will grow out of it soon enough. No worries =)

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Dear Reema, Is she sleeping? Is the swing letting you sleep? Dont sweat it! She wont go to school still sleeping in the swing! Apparently she loves movement. I had a wonderful glider swing thing with my last ( mom of 5) and it would be awesome for your little one. She just needs to move, and feel movement. Double check with the Dr. that she doesn't have any ear troubles-- mine would often scream being laid flat when their ears hurt. ( chances are she is too young for ear trouble)

Enjoy the moment! They grow up way too fast.



Blessings,

Suzanne

Erin - posted on 04/04/2012

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My son had reflux and the positioning of the swing while sleeping and while being held was more comfortable for him. Medicine made a huge difference and your baby may not have reflux issues, just a thought.

Leisa - posted on 04/11/2012

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Have you tried putting something that you have worn for a few days - and keep clean in - in the cot with your baby. I have had three kids all different sleeping patterns. My first was intolerant to lactose, my second had severe reflux and my third was just right. All were different and I simply worn something for a few days and got it to smell like me, put it in the cot underneath my boys and put on some noise for them in their room. Worked like a charm. It is best not to allow your bubby to sleep in your bed, cause they get used to it - at any age baby, toddler. Stick with what you find works for you and do not just stay home so that you can get your bubby to sleep. If you are not happy and relaxed, then they are not relaxed and happy. GOOD LUCK...... :-)))

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Tracy - posted on 04/11/2012

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I'm glad you found something that works for you and her. That's all it takes, practice and diligence.(patience too) It's a learning experience for both of you! Enjoy this time! Always ask others on what they did, just so you can have more ideas for yourself. Good luck on your adventures ahead!

Reema - posted on 04/11/2012

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I have been strong for the most part and my baby has been sleeping in her portable crib in our room! She wakes up every 2.5 hours to feed and sometimes it is easier for her to go right back to sleep that other times. I have been putting her in there for nap times as well and I think she is starting to get the hang of it! The times she doesn't fall asleep in the crib, I put her in her swing for 10 minutes and then do the switch. The swing is a saviour, but she is learning! It just takes some practice and diligence I think, my swing is still getting used..now it is 3-4 hours a day as appose to 12-13 hours...so I can't complain!

Terrie - posted on 04/10/2012

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They make vibrating bouncy seats. You might want to try that and put it in her crib although I think a swing is actually safer. My son slept in one for a while after he had surgery on his head and had to be propped up most of the time when he was under a year. We put him in our room right beside the bed. He is none the worse for the wear and he never fell out. Really I wouldn't worry about it. They really do grow out of it. It is a need for being in tight quarters when they are tiny. Some babies like to sleep in their car seats. I have seen mothers put their babies in their car seats to sleep all night and there is nothing wrong with that either. But you can try things like warm lavender baths before bed time and then swaddling burritoe style. Look it up on the net. Most kids that like close quarters like the burrito style swaddling.

Terrie - posted on 04/10/2012

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They make vibrating bouncy seats. You might want to try that and put it in her crib although I think a swing is actually safer. My son slept in one for a while after he had surgery on his head and had to be propped up most of the time when he was under a year. We put him in our room right beside the bed. He is none the worse for the wear and he never fell out. Really I wouldn't worry about it. They really do grow out of it. It is a need for being in tight quarters when they are tiny. Some babies like to sleep in their car seats. I have seen mothers put their babies in their car seats to sleep all night and there is nothing wrong with that either. But you can try things like warm lavender baths before bed time and then swaddling burritoe style. Look it up on the net. Most kids that like close quarters like the burrito style swaddling.

Tracy - posted on 04/09/2012

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Hey Reema, our little girl slept in a swing till almost 4 mts, it was the difference between a full 8hrs of sleeps or only a few hours sleep in a crib! We took it everywhere with us, as we were travelling quite a bit at the time! She did gradually grow out of it, and to get her in the crib, we had her sleep in the crib for her nap times, swaddled her well with homemade blankets, then we also used the Fisher Price Water Aquarium which also helped quite a bit too! Hope this helps!

Barbara - posted on 04/09/2012

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Elevate one side of the crib mattress slightly. She may be having reflux issues.

Tracy - posted on 04/08/2012

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My son wouldn't go to sleep more than a few hours unless he was swaddled in his swing, with his pacifier in his mouth! I needed sleep, too, so I did it! He was strapped in safe, and I checked him throughout the night. He grew up happy and normal, and is now almost 8 yrs old. He rocks himself to sleep, still, but he gets a good night's sleep for school in the morning! He won't have to worry about it until he's married, so I don't see the problem with it! We all have are quirks, right? :) My daughter(who is almost 3 yrs old) has her thumb in her mouth, and her soft blanket up to her chin as she sleeps on a small futon made for kids, at the foot of our bed.(because she refuses to sleep in her room on her own bed. Good luck with whatever "you" decide is right for your daughter!

Pamela - posted on 04/06/2012

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Have you tried using warm baths right before bedtime and baby massage? If not, try those and see what happens!

Reema - posted on 04/06/2012

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On the warmer days I have been swaddling her with her hands out, she seems to be fine with that. Today we were able to get her to nap in her crib for about 35 minutes every 1.5 hours..that is the time she seemed to get tired..so far so good! Tonight I will do what I did yesterday and hope for the best! But I am convinced that she will adapt slowly, I am just glad she is not in the swing all day and night!

Bridget - posted on 04/06/2012

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I know with my daughter, I had to swaddle her till she was 6 months old. By about 3 months we began swaddling her with her arms free, but she just liked that tightness of the blankets around her (I even had to make larger blankets for her as she grew.) Also, when she was younger I do remember that if I put her down in the crib too soon (I would think she was asleep, but she wasn't quite there yet), she would wake up. My mother-in-law taught me to wait an extra 5 minutes to put the baby down and it worked pretty much every time. Yes, definitely a good routine!



Good luck!

Susan - posted on 04/06/2012

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They sell those things you attach to basinets that play music and vibrate, buy one an lay it in the crib. It sounds like she needs the comfort of being in close knit area's,. I have heard of people filling up the legs in a pair of girls tights ( the thin kind) with rice and tying knots in the ends of the legs cutting off the bottom area and placing/tucking them on either side of the baby. The weight makes the feel secure.

Reema - posted on 04/06/2012

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Thanks for all the continued support! Last night was a mini success..Rayna slept in her portable crib all night! Got up to feed on avg every 3 hours, to me this is an accomplishment!

Theresa - posted on 04/06/2012

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Even better, my son is 17 months old and still uses the swing. We love it and as long as it keeps working, we'll keep using it, lol. Even my 3 year old likes to get in it and swing.

Marta - posted on 04/06/2012

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My granddaughter hardly ever slept in her crib until she was about a year old. She slept in her swing for naps and in her bouncy seat (which vibrated and played music). My daughter-in-law worried about it too at first, but her pediatrician wasn't worried and said she would move on to the crib at some point and she sis. If she is comfortable and happy in the swing just put the sawing in your room at night or in whatever room you want her in. She probably feels like she is back in the womb when she is rocking or moving in the swing or in the car. When she gets older and more mobile she will probably not even like the swing anymore!

Belinda - posted on 04/06/2012

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Well done for persevering and figuring it out Reema! It should continue to get better :)

Yurena - posted on 04/06/2012

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Hi, I don't know what a 'swing' is but I imagine it keeps her snuggled up, try swaddling. xx

Susan - posted on 04/06/2012

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Ps, hot water bottle trick worked for us too, and white noise was the best coz I could take it with me on holidays, or out in pram etc. would put me to sleep too.

Susan - posted on 04/06/2012

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My first had reflux by the way. maybe your bub does too. If this is the case she needs the rocking and her mumma very much just to get comfy as she cant do it on her own.

Susan - posted on 04/06/2012

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Dont stress. Baby is not even 12 weeks old yet. Just be grateful that bub sleeps at all honey.You cant form bad habits in the first 6 months so just go with the flow. She will eventually transfer. I wish I had a swing fir my first. I had 3 mnths of rocking and her sleeping in a pram. My second bub slept happily in a battery operated rocker for the 1st 3 months. The golden rule is do whatever works until baby grows older and you can start implementing self settling. She needs you right now. She is too young.

R - posted on 04/06/2012

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Maybe your baby just likes the confined space. Try a bassinet instead of a crib, or a crib divider to make the space smallerin the crb. You can also buy items designed to make the crib vibrate,which may provide an easier adjustment.

Condra - posted on 04/05/2012

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When my son was like that I swaddle him with out tuckin his feet n took like a lil decortive pillow from the couch n set it on his back n he slept like a baby....my doc tld me great think because she just wants 2 feel like some 1's there... Let me know how it goes

Melissa - posted on 04/05/2012

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She will outgrow this, my daughter did the same thing. Be patient and enjoy that she wants to be in your arms.

Reema - posted on 04/05/2012

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Thanks Mandy and everyone else for your support! I have been swing free all day today..I have been putting her down for naps in her portable crib! First nap was 25 mins..2nd nap was 35 mins..and now we are on nap number 3...and she has been sleeping for 40 mins! To me this is a huge success..I did have to rock her in complete darkness for 10 mins before I did the transfer..but it looks like it is working! Yes I have to break this habit early as I can totally see she thrives on schedules! Thanks again everyone for all your tips and advice...I know it's going to be tough...but I am determined that she now solely sleep in her portable crib..then eventually her own crib!

Mandy - posted on 04/05/2012

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Hi Reema. My baby girl was the opposite - couldn't handle any motion but for the first 8 weeks of her life she would only sleep in my arms after holding her for hours. She wouldn't sleep in her cot and only about 20 min in the pram. (I have an older boy and he loved motion) I had to mission with her to get her to sleep in her cot. Night time routine was unbearable at the beginning but it turned out to be severe acid reflux. I persevered (and that's the key word) and she now goes down with no problem and has been sleeping through since about 8 weeks. Also during the day, she goes down with no holding or rocking. Try break the habit as quick as possible.- sounds horrible but babies thrive on routine and structure and it will make your life a lost more easier.

Mazy - posted on 04/05/2012

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Have you swaddled since birth? Are you holding her or nursing her while swaddled? You may want to put the swing away or keep her awake & entertained in it so she doesn't associate it with sleep. But she is only 10 weeks old, so leaving her to cry it out in her crib may not be the healthiest option. I'm sure that she will vacation ok as long as a few days before you give her the same blanket to cuddle, then bring that one with you while you travel & try to take breaks for her to rest undisturbed. I moved cross country (FL to CT) and ended up having to spend 6 weeks taking turns living with my brother & parents until I had my own apartment. My son was only 10 weeks old then & he did just fine with all the moving around. They are pretty portable & adaptable at that age :) GOOD LUCK!

Reema - posted on 04/05/2012

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I tried to swaddle her yesterday and she cried bloody murder! I think I will just have to spend some time and keep her out of the swing. We are taking her on vacation in 7 weeks and can't exactly take the swing with us...pray for me..lol

Bobbie - posted on 04/05/2012

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I'm sorry but you will just have to let her cry and fuss until she falls asleep in her crib. You are teaching your baby that she will get what she wants if she crys. Make sure everything else is good, not hungry, not wet, not hurting and just let them cry they will learn to sleep in the crib eventually.

Mazy - posted on 04/05/2012

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Swaddle her really tight & warm. For a couple of days let her start to fall asleep in her swing or your arms, then gently place her in her crib. (Or get a bassinet type bed if you can since they are smaller & cozier for smaller kiddos). Don't stress over it too much since she's still very small, but it is a good idea to have her associate sleep with her bed. I don't think there are any issues with her sleeping in her swing really, but when she outgrows it & REALLY needs to be in a crib it might be an unfun adjustment for her.

Laural - posted on 04/05/2012

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Your baby has been conditioned to expect the swing. You'll just have to stop it and deal with a crabby baby until she adjusts. Doctors ofter warn not to let a baby sleep in a swing (or car seat) for extended periods as it can lead to the back of their head becoming flat.

Krista - posted on 04/04/2012

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Mm, I'm not too sure about that one, Molly. My son would only nap in his swing, and was getting to the point where he was starting to actually outgrow the swing. So I had to do through the same thing that Reema did. I'm thinking it might be better for her to get her baby used to the crib now, instead of having an even bigger battle months down the road.



Reema...I wonder if she might sleep better in a cozier bed than a crib. Do you have a bassinet? Could you borrow one, to see if it works?

Krista - posted on 04/04/2012

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Hm...okay, so it must be the motion that works for her, then. I wonder if a vibrating crib soother would work?

Reema - posted on 04/04/2012

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Hi Krista,



Thanks for your reply! I feel like I have tried all of those things besides the warm sheets. I have tried the rocking her till she passes out and then place her in her crib, longest she has gone is 20 minutes and she wakes up screaming. I tried the swaddle blanket with the velcro, hates it with a passion, she does not want her hands swaddled, we have to loosely tuck her in...as soon as we tie her down she starts to shake herself until she is free. I even tried to put her down in our bed as I thought that would be more comfortable, same thing wakes up crying after a few minutes. The swing puts her to sleep instantly and she stays sleeping in it for sometimes as long as 5 hours, but you put her anywhere else....she wont have it..and trust me I have tried...:)

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