How to get my ex-husband to exercise his visitation

Angela - posted on 04/09/2013 ( 5 moms have responded )

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When I ask my ex-husband what his visitation schedule is for the next few weeks.?......
The response I get is; " I am going to have to sit down and figure it out".
His visitation is set up as 2 Saturdays a month with 1 of those to be an overnight.
Minimal visitation was set up 4 years ago b/c he had his license revoked for 2 DUIs.
.............thank you in advance for any input.

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Dove - posted on 04/10/2013

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Visitation and child support are completely separate issues. He could owe thousands and thousands of dollars and still be entitled to the same visitation rights as if he PAID thousands and thousands of dollars.

The only way he can have the support changed (to my understanding) is if his income has gone down or your income has gone up. If he contests the support amount and you bring up visitation... the judge most likely isn't going to want to hear from you.

Ev - posted on 04/10/2013

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The only way he can get the spousal and child support reduced is if his income has changed for the lessor or if the judge sees fit to do so. Also, visitation and support are two different issues which everyone seems to place together.

Jodi - posted on 04/10/2013

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I'm confused as to what this has to do with spousal and child support. That has nothing to do with visitation. Even men who pay nothing have access to their kids.

Angela - posted on 04/09/2013

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Thank you Evelyn,
I am aware that I cannot make him see his children,
This has all been prompted b/c he is taking me back to court to reduce Spousal and Child Support.
My attitude is that the court needs to know he is not exercising his parenting time, therefore I would prefer not to have any support reduced, as I do it all.!

Ev - posted on 04/09/2013

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Unfortunately, you can not force his hand for the visitations. Its his choice not to take them and miss out. He already knows the schedule and therefore its up to him to make sure he uses it. You did not say how long he has been doing this so if its been a long time, contact the court and let them know what he is doing as far as the visitation. He is in violation of the court order at this point. I have a friend who had it set up to her specifications for sole custody. To this date this year, her ex has only come for a couple hours one time to see their kids. Last year, it was only three times and I think only one of them actually went and stayed with him during a week at summer. She could take it to court and more than likely the judge could terminate his visits. But in your case, it would be up to the judge to decide what to do about it.

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