how to get my ex to stop lying

Heather - posted on 08/13/2012 ( 5 moms have responded )

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Some help is needed please. My son's father and I are not together. We are going through court to work out visitation and etc... I started the process with hiring a lawyer to assit me because my son's father would not do a parenting plan with me. Anyway my problem is my son's father is denying he is the father of our son. I can say that i know with 100 percent certainty that his the father. (i know this gets said a lot but i am not the type who sleeps around and is unsure who the father is) He does not believe he is the father so we have to have a dna test done. He is telling lies about me to his co workers like I am the one that doesn't know if he is the father or not (he actually believes my ex husband is the father) and that I won't let him see our son leaving our that he is denying paternity and filed a petition with the court stating he does not believe to be the father. He asked my lawyer to set up visits with me and our son. My lawyer told him visitation is not revelant because he is denying paternity. I don't know how to get him to stop spreading lies about me and to stop making me look like the bad person when i'm doing nothing but the right thing and not spreading lies about him. What I do tell people has come from his own hand or mouth. Please help.

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~♥Little Miss - posted on 08/13/2012

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I know this is much easier said than done, but ignore it and don't worry about it. Once the DNA test is done (and I recommend doing it sooner than later) he will have made himself look like a total douche denying his own son. Good luck!

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Dove - posted on 08/14/2012

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You can't. Trust me. I wasted years of my energy on a very similar issue. It's not worth the aggravation. Just ignore it and live your life the way you KNOW you are living it. Everyone that matters will know the truth anyway based on the actions of the two of you. Anyone that believes his lies isn't worth your time.

Amy - posted on 08/13/2012

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He's doing it because he is controlling. Try to ignore it, don't worry about what he's saying to who! You know he's the father and that's really all that matters.

Heather - posted on 08/13/2012

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We are getting the DNA test done. Just waiting to hear when it will be. I thank you guys for your advice. I just don't know what to do. I feel so helpless and don't know how to deal. I do ignore him he's just so controlling. I just don't know. I'm sooo lost.

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I agree, ignore what is being said and focus on what you can do. Get the DNA test done asap and leave the rest between the lawyers.

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