Frieda - posted on 11/20/2012 ( no moms have responded yet )
I've been married for 3years now and we are raising my husband's two daughters aged 7 and 11. They never used to lie but for the past year and a half this became a habbit. They lie about absolutely everyhting! It even got to the point that I phoned the school about it and had to find out that they are doing the same to their teachers about books being at home (and is not) just because homework is not done. This is becoming a real problem because they lie without blinking. Usually it is because they don't want to do something or something was not done. For example last night their father was working outside and I knew we were going to drive somewhere after he finished so I sent the oldest child to ask him how long he will be and if they could go bath in the meantime. She stayed away for about 10 minutes then came into the house without saying a word. When I asked what her father said, she replied that he said they can still play outside and that he is almost done and they should not go bath now. I was busy with the washing so I did not check with him. About an hour later he came in the house asking them why they haven't bathed yet..... I was furious! Their lying is creating problems between me and my husband. If he would just help me try and do something about it. But he only shouts at them promising them a hiding and thats where it's left. He knows about the problems at school because their grades are very poor. Their mother never encourages them. For example: The older child did not pass three of her subjects and all the bio-mom said was that she should not worry because she (the mother) herself did poor in school. I could not believe that she would say that. Now I have a problem with the older child to get her to study. I tried to explain to the child that education is important and that she should always try and do the best she can in school. Not passing a subject is no excuse for not studying. The bio-mom is a bad influance and I think the children is very confused. I arranged with the headmaster at school to get the school Psychologist to see both of the children as soon as possible. Am I the problem? Am I doing something wrong? I dont' have children of my own so I love the two children as my own. What am I to do?