How to get over the fear of a C section?

Sillygoose91987 - posted on 11/05/2012 ( 5 moms have responded )

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I'm having a c section this Thursday Nov 8th and I'm terrified. I had a c section with my son but it was an emergency c section so I didn't know it was coming til it happen. Now that I know I have to have one I am uber scared and dont know how to handle it. Any advice on how to deal with it would be great. Something I can do to calm my nervous about having a c section. What are somethings that you moms have done that had c sections to get over the fear or help with it?!?!

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Sillygoose91987 - posted on 11/06/2012

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I has similar problems with my first c section I dont remember a whole lot from the first day. I remember the pain your mind dont let you forget that. I also remember the chaos that was going on as they got me ready for the c section. And the epidural helped but didnt help they pumped so much of the meds in me that I was sick I puked and passed out and dont remember much after that. I came to that night when they got me up to walk and the pain was so bad I could hardly stand on my own 2 feet. I handle pain pretty good and I thought I was going to die for a few days and they had me on morphine and it didnt cut the pain. I'm really scared that I am going to go through that again. I hope not I keep telling myself everything will be okay. The hospital I am delivering at I love the doctors they are great so that helps alot too. Hopefully I'll have a similar experience like you did. With this one being planned it will go smoother. Thank you for the advice everyone!

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My first c section was emergency, and it was not a fun experience. I was already upset because of the complications in my labor and the announcement of the c section sent me into a panic. Going into the OR with everyone rushing around and calling out commands to each other just made everything more stressful and scary. To top it off, the epidural I already had wasn't enough to cover the pain and I pretty much felt everything, even though they were pumping more drugs into me. It all happened so fast and the drugs settled in HARD just as the worst was over, and I can't remember much of anything after that. I can only vaguely remember seeing my baby for the first time, and even the entire rest of that day is only a fuzzy memory because I was so out of it. I remember pain and also disorientation throughout my couple hours in surgery recovery. I just remember being so worried and upset because I didn't know where my husband and baby were, couldn't think or see straight. I was in and out, so while it was only a couple hours total, each time I woke up it felt like hours had passed and I kept thinking I was missing all this time of the first day with my baby and husband!



C section number 2--- It was planned, and though I was nervous, I felt everyone was much more calm and in control, at ease even! And that helped ease my mind. I had a spinal block that time and felt NOTHING, yet was completely lucid and can remember everything. It was much more comfortable and relaxed. I was able to talk back and forth with my doctor even as he was doing the procedure. I have memories to cherish of seeing my son be held up as soon as he was out, hearing his first cries, hearing all the positive comments from the doctors as they checked his vitals, I can clearly remember seeing my husband standing there holding him, and getting to see his face for the first time. I was coherent when they told me that my husband was going with the baby for his first bath and other things, so I knew what what going on and wasn't confused or worried. I was awake the whole time in recovery, so I was completely aware of how much time had passed, knew where I was and what to expect. I can remember my whole hospital stay. I wasn't completely dazed like the first time. The pain was also much less!! I took nothing but extra strength motrin, though they offered vicodin and even morphine in the very beginning, if I needed it. Of course every experience is different, but generally what I have heard (and experienced) is that planned c sections are sooooo much easier! I didn't tell you my emergency c section story to freak you out, but just to say when I say a planned c section is "easier" you know that I'm not just saying that because I have a high tolerance for pain or anything. And to say that, by comparison, a planned c section is nothing like that. It really IS easier!!! And likely, the hospital staff will help put you at ease when you are being prepped. If you have an ipod, make a playlist of songs that are soothing to you and take that to listen to while you are waiting to go in to the OR. That might help. Oh, also, when I had my second c section my first son was only 15 months old, my husband was working two jobs, and my parents live 2000 miles away, so I had no help other than one day that my sister took my older son for a couple hours. That's it. And I made it through. Let your 5 yo help out in any little ways possible, accept help from anyone who offers, and don't expect too much of yourself as far as housework goes for a while. Good luck, you will do great! :)

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I had a panic attack on the OR table with my daughter. With my son I made sure that everyone knew my past. I was allowed to have headphones with music in the OR. The nurses and anesthesiologist were awesome and kept me distracted after my son was born with mild chit chat. That way I couldn't hear what the doctors were saying.



I didn't feel anything, which was my huge fear. They pushed my son out to mimic a vaginal birth for him as much as possible. So I did feel them pushing on my stomach.



I was able to do it fairly well and my kids are 25 months apart. I did push myself a bit too hard and had a hard time healing on my left side. My IV was in my hand, so I had to use a lot more abdominal muscles than I should have. But even then it was nothing compared to the heal time I went through after my daughter.

Sillygoose91987 - posted on 11/05/2012

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Thank you so much. I keep telling myself it's not going to be that bad so I dont sike myself up. I know what to expect afterwards but knowing it is coming is scaring the poo outta me. And the fact that I have a 5 y/o to also take care of after wards. It's just alot that I am worried about after the fact. And stupid me watched a video from start to finish on a c section. I like to know what is going on but I should have waited til after my c section to watch it. I dont think that helped my nerves at all.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 11/05/2012

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Well, I had an emergency c section 2. It tends to be that the emergency ones are much more difficult to heal from, especially if you had time to push. Supposedly planned ones are easier. Hope that helsp a little.

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