How to get your husband more involved?

Olivia - posted on 03/08/2014 ( 1 mom has responded )




I have two kids age 3 and a month old. My husband work night shifts and I used to work at a school but I tool the time off when I got pregnant with my second because health issues. My husband is a nice guy but he does not help out in the family. He always sleeps till pass 4pm and he only works two nights a week, but he is gone every night, he will spend his "free" nights playing poker or going to a bar drinking. And then he will complain he is too tired to get up with the kids. He does not make nearly enough to provide for us and I will have to borrow money from my parents to pay some bills yet his excuse when I try to talk to him about how I feel is that he works and I am a stay at home mom now so doing chores is my job not his. I am really mad at him for being not understanding but I do not know a better way to solve my problem. Does anyone have the similar problem? what's your suggestions? I am thinking about divorce but I am so afraid I will lose custody to my children or one of them because I do not have a job now.


Michelle - posted on 03/08/2014




Before divorce you should try all options first. Have you had counselling? I would suggest marriage counselling and if he refuses then go on your own.
You also need to talk to him and let him know that it's not just the chores you would like help with but raising his children as well. He helped create them so he can help raise them.
Maybe even come to an agreement of once a month he goes out to play poker or whatever but the rest of his nights off he needs to be home.

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