HOW TO GIVE THE WANDERING OFF STRANGERS TALK

Rebecca - posted on 08/06/2015 ( 2 moms have responded )

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MY FOUR YEAR IS AT THE STAGE THAT SHE WANTS TO TEST EVERYTHING I TELL HER NOT TO DO. LEAVING ME IN THE STORE IS A BIG ONE. SHE DOES NOT UNDERSTAND WHAT A STRANGER IS. SHE HAS A BIG INTEREST IN MEN SHE HAS BEEN ASKING ALOT ABOUT HER DAD. HOW DO I GO ABOUT HANDLING THIS?

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Dove - posted on 08/07/2015

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Tell her the truth about her father (in simple terms... leaving out the nitty gritty details if he's abusive or a drug user, etc....).

As far as wandering off in a store... watch her closely and if she tries to wander off she has to be confined in the cart or something. I wouldn't stress too much on the 'stranger' issue... she shouldn't be going off w/ ANYONE whether she knows them or not unless you are aware of it and have given your permission.

Does she have an uncle or a grandpa or a male family friend willing to help fill the void from not knowing her father? My son does know his father, but as his father is VERY rarely involved... my dad has really stepped up to fill the void in my son's life.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 08/07/2015

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Consistency. Keep on her about not leaving you, not talking to people she does not know, etc.
As far as her asking about her father, don't hide him from her. Be open. You do not need to tell why you split, but I'm curious as to why he does not have visitation. He's got the right to visitation, and at 4 years old, she's got the right to know her father. What you do NOT have is the right to deny that.

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