How to go away for a night with out my kids without feeling guilty..

Shannon - posted on 06/20/2016 ( 4 moms have responded )

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I am going away on a shopping trip with my friend over night, but I have never left my children more than a couple of hours.. My son is seven and my daughter is four. Im not really worried about my seven year old its my daughter that I am worried is going to have a problem.. I am a stay at home mom so I am constantly with them. I know I need to break free just once already, but I am getting anxiety just thinking about when I have to leave.. Any advice to relax my nerves..

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Ev - posted on 06/20/2016

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It is common to feel this way when leaving your kids with someone else overnight. It is also common for the kids to feel upset as well. The best thing is to hype up their over night with whomever it is going to be with. Make it sound so exciting that they get excited. Maybe find some treats for them for that night to take with them or get a special movie for them to watch there. Make it a great thing. As for yourself, take a long deep breath and let it out slowly. The more anxious you are the more they pick up on it. Also tell them you might find them a nice treat to bring home for them...it could be as small as a piece of candy or small toy...nothing big. It will show them you think of them often.

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Tricia - posted on 06/22/2016

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It is normal to feel like that. I really like what PP said. One thing we do is leave notes in places where they will find them. So one in the PJ drawer, one by the toothbrush or bedtime books. One by the cereal for breakfast. Then it becomes like an adventure they are looking forward to and you can enjoy your trip with a smile on your face knowing they are finding their little treasures. Good for you going away!! Enjoy your time.

Ev - posted on 06/21/2016

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Oh, you are welcome!! And glad to hear it is dad that is with them. He might have issues with bedtime but you know he might relax it too because you are gong to a point. Maybe let them stay up until they fall asleep on the couch or something? It might make it easier for them to go to bed even if he does follow the normal routine but allows them to sit with him on the couch to watch a kiddie move and then fall off to sleep? It could make a difference.

Shannon - posted on 06/21/2016

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Thank You!! They are staying home with my husband and they have been with him before when I take day trips to Atlantic City with my mom, but I always come home the same day, so it's getting them to bed is going to be the problem.. You did relax my mind and he does have fun stuff planned for this weekend.. Thanks for the pep talk!!

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