how to handle a situation wherein you found out that your husband is cheating on you?

Danielry - posted on 02/27/2014 ( 5 moms have responded )

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we've been together for almost 8 years. And then last week i found out that he had a one night stand with his co-worker last May 2013. The girl has also a live in parnert that time. According to my husband, he is not sure if he is the father of the baby. Because the girl doesn't even mentioned about it with him. He actually found it last december from their another co-worker that there is a possibility also that he is the father. Hope you can give me an advice.

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Ev - posted on 03/01/2014

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You need to sit down with him and talk to him. You also need to have him check into having a DNA done on that child so he is not strapped with a child that is not his. IF the child is his be prepared if you stay with him for him to have to pay out child support and have visitations with his child. You will be the stepmother. But you and he must be willing to sit down and work this out or you have to decide if you want this to continue. But then you would also be going through a divorce and anything to do with custody of children if you have them.

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Ev - posted on 03/04/2014

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It sounds like a hard situation if she has not told her partner about this baby and who she think the father is. What your man needs to do if he really wants this relationship with the child is to file with court for a paternity test and visitation. Once a judge gets this case and orders these things then she will have to comply. Then at least you would know if the child is really his or not and then you two can go on to work out what is going on in your own relationship. AGAIN--I say do not let it go too long. If you do it will get harder to handle.

As for the visit, do it in a public place rather than go to their house instead. If this partner of hers has no clue this child may not be his it might become something you guys do not want to have to deal with in addition to what is already going on. So to avoid a fight or altercation--meet somewhere public.

Danielry - posted on 03/03/2014

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dont really know when.. is it really okay if we gonna see the baby? we dont even know their house.. we dont even know if the girl would allow us because she and the baby is living with her live in partner.. And that guy, doesn't even know about the one night stand of my husband and his girlfriend..

Ev - posted on 03/03/2014

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THe longer you guys wait the harder its going to be to handle. Do not let it go too long.

Danielry - posted on 03/03/2014

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he doesn't want to talk about it as of now.. maybe because he knew that im still emotional about the problem.. all i know is he just wanna see the child and if given a chance to see the child, he wants me to go with him..i dont know whats his plan after that.. but he told me to let him think everything first and then we're gonna talk about it soon and he's goona fix it...

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