How to handle an unhappy toddler after vistation with Father..

Cammie - posted on 01/07/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )




I have a 22 month old son with a man that I was never married to but we have joint custody. My son started spending Saturday night every other weekend with his dad when he was one and this past weekend was the first time he did a Friday thru Sunday visitation. He was screaming out in his sleep last night when he returned home and at one time yelled out "Mommy!"...He was very restless and didn't sleep well at ALL..Today, he has been very cranky and just threw a 15-20 min tantrum in a book store because we had to leave. He has also been hitting me a lot. My son is usually an extremely happy baby and I'm so afraid that these weekend vistitations with his dad are negatively affecting him. His dad and his family also call him by a different name and I think this is also confusing and frustrating for my child. His dad doesn't believe these things are happening and thinks I'm just making it up to keep him away from his son. Does anyone have any suggestions on how to deal with this? I'm so afraid for my son..


Jodi - posted on 01/07/2013




It is only two nights every other weekend, he will adjust. I'd say he is probably just unsettled because his routine has changed. Kids are very resilient, he will get used to it. My son used to be like this when he was younger every time he visited with his dad, and it would take 2 or 3 days for him to settle back into his regular routine. As they get older, they adjust to the changes in schedule more easily. In that couple of days after he comes home from dad's try not to plan anything large, or any big shopping trips. Try to keep a calm environment for him, and stick to a strict routine that he knows, and he will settle back down just fine.


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