Tracie - posted on 09/25/2016 ( 7 moms have responded )
My fiancé and I have been together 6 years, and are getting married next year. We have a child together, and he has an older child with another. His mother, and even grandma sometimes, show a lot of favoritism to the oldest. There has been times where his mother will come and get the oldest, and leave our baby out of what she's doing. It has been like this since my daughter was born. They are both her grandchildren, I don't understand how she can do it! My family, treats his oldest daughter just like they treat our daughter, they might do something here and there a little extra, but, then again, his oldest is not their grandchild, and I feel sometimes they need some extra time to spend with their grandchild. The oldest does see her maternal grandmother, and aunt, and cousins at times, and my daughter is not involved in that scenario, because she is not both of their grandmothers. There was an incident over the weekend where his mom asked my daughter, if she wanted to go shopping at Justice with her? My daughter said yes and was so happy! His mom then said I'll take both you and your sister this weekend. Well, Thursday or Friday, his mom tells me, I can't take both of them, I don't know if I can handle them. I'm only taking one at a time. I instantly texted my fiancé and told him, If she can't take both, neither are going. That I knew she would pick to take his oldest daughter first, then our daughter would get put on the back burner and forgotten. Long and behold, Saturday comes around, and guess what? She asked to take his oldest. When his oldest was not even told anything about going shopping, the whole conversation was with our daughter, and not his oldest. I have a big problem when it comes to any child's feelings getting hurt. And when it's my child, I will put both feet down, and stand my guard. It's always been about his oldest child, and rarely our child. Do any of you think I'm over reacting? How should I handle something like this? Our daughter isn't really close to his mom, on a count of she barely sees our daughter! How I feel, is I should just avoid being around her, and only be around her when it's necessary, like family gatherings, etc. my fiancé is not close with his mother, as his grandma is the one who raised him. Any advice on how to handle a situation like This?!!