Lak - posted on 11/11/2013 ( no moms have responded yet )
I need some help....Im the second daughter in law of my husbands family of three boys. My MIL liked me from the beginning more than the elder one, Even after when the youngest BIL got married and the couple started living with them. My MIL didnt like the new one from the beginning for many reasons mainly for not helping for house work etc etc and finally the parents shifted to a new house giving their old house to them. I was the favourite daughter in law and they used to consult, talk to me and also share all the secrets with me. But everything started to disappear after I delivered the baby and living with them. My younger SIS became very close to me since I was hurt for my MIL's action and il-treatments. She used to tell all the bad things which my MIL talks behind my back. Finally after couple of weeks, me and my husband moved to my fathers place with the baby. After couple of moths things became better with my MIL but noticed that the younger SIL is now very friendly with her. They both are like best friends. I never had a reason to be suspicious over her until last month. I realized that she is doing all the things to be the favourite one. And all these while she was being my MIL's gossip messenger. I used to scold my mom in law with her cos i was hurt and mad on how she treated me when we were living with them. I really thought that woman is like a sister. My relationship with my MIL is much much better now, like she calls me daily and tells all the stories but at the same time she talks lot about the SIL, how sweet, nice she is this and that.
Last month I passed small hints when my sis in law called me one day to discuss something bad about my MIL and indirectly told her that im not so interested to talk anything bad about her. After that she never called me and we talk only when we meet at in laws place.
Im also guessing that both brother in law and sis law are slowly trying to get all the properties from them by being so caring and friendly to the parents. When i discuss about this with my husband, he laughs and ells me" if they want it let them take and i dont care".
Pls advice me how to handle her rather tackle her for being bitchy and telling all the gossips to my MIL and also I want to be her favourite again. Pls help....