How to handle the situation with father of my unborn daughter?

Kayleigh - posted on 07/11/2013 ( no moms have responded yet )

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Hi I'm 22 years old with my first baby. I'm currently 34 weeks pregnant and split up with father just 2 weeks ago. I ended the relationship due to reason he is a complete failure. After living with my ex for 8 months at his fathers house, he told my ex me and the baby wasn't allowed to be at the house as it isn't it safe. (I know it isn't safe but I was hoping to have a flat by privately renting by the time she was born.
My ex then felt the need to tell me a month before his mot is due on his car, and it needs new wheels, new alloys (as the one he had on was a mot failure), and lots of other jobs doing to the car. He then had to rely on my pay to do it as he doesn't earn a lot of money due to being on a benefit fiddle ( which I don't agree with but I couldn't stop him) and his boss screws him over with pay. I got rushed into maternity triage at my local hospital where I had to be tested for everything as I was suffering from a infection which caused blisters and ulcer around my vagina, I then gave up work whilst I got better and got my full strength and health back to a good standard. As I wasn't working and was ill I moved back in with my parents where I knew I could be looked after properly. After 5 days of being back at my parents I managed to have maybe a 3 hour conversation and 20 texts over 5 days in total. Being I was still ill he didn't seem to care about my welfare or his unborn daughter.
I asked him if he could lend me some money in which I got told no he had spent over £400 in 2 days on his car, I then asked him if could contribute some money towards her cot in which I got told he was skint, I then asked him if he could pay some money towards his phone bill (which is in my mums name, which I bought him the phone cos he wanted a new iPhone 5. I had just had a tax rebate) after asking him to pick up his daughters cot on a Friday after work he said no as he was going out when I asked him again to contribute to her cot he said he didn't have the money,, so yes he had money to go out on the piss but couldn't give me some for her cot, or pick it up, when he said make your dad get it, I ended it I had enough by then I felt I had no support from him whatsoever. Now I have found out he has a new girlfriend already and still can't support his daughter. He doesn't care about her yet, like he said she isn't born yet. He has turned into such a nasty piece of work I'm scared of him and don't trust him as he has lied to me.

Where do I stand with him and does any one know how to handle this situation to defuse it a bit for my baby girls sake. I don't want her to be born into a war zone.

Thanks for readying thought the full story might help.

K

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