Kimberly M. - posted on 03/07/2016 ( 3 moms have responded )
About me: I'm 26, engaged (not to my child's father), full time senior in college and a mom.
Situation: My son a dad isn't consistent, he doesn't keep his word and all in the same token he expects me to be OK with things.
Last week when he came to pick up our child I explained to him how important communication is between us. (Your going to get him this weekend your not going to get him this weekend). He said ok I get it... so I left it at that.
Thus past week had come and was coming to an end so I texted him, call me when you get a chance. He calls, I asked are you getting your son this weekend? He says yeah I'm getting him tomorrow at 1 which would be Saturday at 1. I say OK. I get off the phone with him and proceed to make my plans for the weekend.
Saturday rolls around, son and I get up go to breakfast come home clean up and pack his bag. 1 pm comes and no dad. I text him at 3 are you still coming or not? No respons. So son and I go to the park and out to dinner and back home. I bathe him and get him on his PJ's. 8 pm his dad texts "is he still up?" I said yeah, he says he's on his way. He comes, I ask what happened to 1pm. He just laughs.
He returns our son the next day at 11am and had the damn nerve to ask for some money.
I have Monday and Wednesday night classes. He told me he wasn't working the next day which is Monday so he agreed to keep our child.
Monday comes, he inboxes me on fb and says he doesn't want to stay home so he went into work and wont be keeping his son but he will the next day which is tomorrow. (We shall see how that goes)
So I pay a child sitter/ friend to keep my son while I go to a 3 hour night class. while I'm in class my sons father texts me to bring him to his job (Wendy's) so he can get a free frosty and so his co workers can see him.
this is how that conversation went
BD: bring devin bye so he can get a frosty
(sounds like a demand to me and not a question)
Me: I'm in class and after class I have to go pick him up and you think I would like to drive elsewhere other than home. No.
(I don't like driving at night unless I have to and he knows that)
BD: Yea wht ever
Me: Asking you to do anything is like pulling teeth but you expect me to be happy go lucky and willing to go out of my way because you ask. That's not fair and until I can see some mutual respect, don't ask me for anything.
BD: WTF ever
Honestly, your opinions.