How to I stop my mother in law?

Kerrylee - posted on 01/17/2014 ( no moms have responded yet )

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Hello my mother in law thinks she knows best for her precious son and that I'm not good enough for him. I think she is jealous as he no longer needs or particularly want her in his life anymore. She has always interfered since day one n even spitefully told his ex who he has a child with that he had a new girlfriend (me) so to stop him having contact with the child and just let her see her grandson this this is what happened this put enormous pressure on our new relationship as I felt guilty that his son had been taken away from him because he was with me. My mother in law continued to get pally with the ex in order to manipulate her so she continued to see her grandson and he ex is lazy and just saw a free babysitter so went along with it yet they both has coffee mornings were hey would slag me off together on how terrible I was and how I was a home wrecker and even told the ex her son still was in love with her this continued for the next 5 years until I fell pregnant with my daughter. Then my mother in law loved me a complete 180 I was giving her the girl she always wanted after having 2 sons of her own and 1 grandson from the ex she was desperate for a girl. But then as always her opinion had to be he only opinion she didn't like my labour options she didn't like my husband coming to scans cos she wanted to be there she didn't like the name we picked out she had to have copies of the scan photos she became obsessed so we had to take a step back and cut contact for a while as it was really freaking me out in my hormonal emotional state I was dreaming she was going to steal my baby n getting in a state this wasn't good for the baby. However the day I went into labour my husband phoned her and she turns up at the hospital demanding to be with is while I was birthing and caused such a scene security had to remove her. When she held my daughter for he first time she actually smiled I'd never seen this before but wouldn't let me or her son to her it was all her. I was in hospital for 2 days and when I got home she had moved in to "help" she didn't help she helped my husband on his night feeds n pretended she didn't hear her when it was my turn. We sent her home. From then on she has done nothing but compare my daughter to her grandson and of course she is behind him on major milestones he was crawling by so n so n walking by so n so I didn't care I was happy and proud when my daughter reached them in her own time. Anyway Easter came and my husband was told he could see his son for he first time in a year his son was 6 at the time we spoke about it n I thought best he went to see his son at the mother in laws as stated by the ex on his own without us so he could see his son and his son see him without me and the new baby being the focus. Well he walked in his mothers and she erupted that we hasn't gone screaming swearing smashing things my husband took his son out to the cinema as he was frightened half to death. When he spoke to his mother later that evening about her behaviour she said I was wrong for staying away and my husband calmly explained that we have spoken about the situation and we have both agreed that he should of come alone and will continue to do so until he has formed a bond with his son again and until he is in a regular consultant routine before he meets his sister she went of like a rocket n wished all of us dead n said I was a bad mother n taking it out on her grandson that he can't meet his sister my husband just left. I was then bombarded by 40-50 text messages a day from her slagging me off n never once asked about my daughter. I changed my mobile number so she started sending letters and even sent on on my daughters 1st birthday addressed to her saying die bitchc enough was enough she had ruined my daughters birthday we went to the solicitors who sent a cease and desist harassment order to her and of course his all stopped me and my hubby where happy again all is well got 9 months until she turned up at our house walked in and sat on my sofa I said excuse me can I help u she said yes make me a cup of coffee I was flabagasted! My husband said she could stay and talk things through if his dad would be here so in he walked. We had a conversation and she decided it was best interests for my daughter to see her grandparents so we gave it another go crazy I know but I did. Things were great until last week when her and my husband had an argument as she had promised not to be in contact with his ex and it turns out she had lied all the way along and in fact all the time we had been together she had been pally with the ex and telling her everything that was happening in our lives and how she sent the poison pen letter on my daughters birthday like it was a triumph so he said he no longer wanted her in his life as she's a liar and puts his ex before him and his family in order to keep the ex sweet to see her grandson so he cut contact and out of his life for good. she then contacted me saying he was having an affair and that I should leave him as he is a selfish man who doesn't bother with his family I e them or his son as he hasn't seen him since the Easter due to her actions the ex didn't allow it yet she still had him thought out the year. So me and my husband have separated due to her malicious lies about the affair I need some one to myself so me and my daughter are at my mums I hate his mother for what she has done to me in the last 7 years belittled me birate me slander me drop my daughter when she can't have her son in her life n always put he grandson as favourite against my daughter he always gets bought for she went on holiday n he got presents my aught we got nothing birthday he got a street party held my daughter got the poison pen letter. So now she's back to not seeing my daughter again and I'm separated from my husband I know it's not my husbands fault n I don't believe this affair business if I'm honest I just don't see any other way then to walk away from him to get away from her. Please help sorry it's so long.

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