How to juggle house chores with 2 year old and 6 month old twins

Angela - posted on 01/20/2015 ( 6 moms have responded )

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Need advice on how to manage household chores..Husband tends to get angry when I don't have house clean, laundry put up n his comfy clothes in the restroom closet when he's done taking a shower...I find it tough with kids, but i know it can be done just need to know what i can do to get it done..Not feeling like a very good wife/mother not being able to juggle all this..

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Jodi - posted on 01/20/2015

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I agree wholeheartedly with Shawnn. If your husband is getting angry, then he needs to step up rather than take that out on you. And honestly, if he can't get his own comfy clothes for after his shower, then he needs to go back to his mother, because YOU are not his mother. You don't need to be juggling it all. Sit down and have a discussion with your husband about what he can do to contribute around the house so that it does get done. But make it clear that picking up after him is NOT one of those things that you will be doing.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 01/20/2015

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A lot of women don't realize that, by staying home with the kids, you are WORKING! LOL...Its not all fun & games, even though it is enjoyable to be able to be at home with your kids.

A lot of men simply assume that "Wife" means "she'll do it all".

My relationship is 25 years strong, though, and its one where we've always discussed and had a 50/50 view. The only time I'd say we'd do differently is if he either worked away from home for weeks or months on end...and then I'd WANT to be waiting on him hand and foot...to make up for all of the time that we aren't together.

This will work out for you, my dear! Just sit down with hubby, explain that you need his help!

Angela - posted on 01/20/2015

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That is true! And I never looked at it as waiting on him hand and foot. Wow!.this is an eye opener. Thank you! I needed different advice, everyone always says how lucky i am to stay home, i guess that is why i feel i need to do ALL house hold chores and wait on him hand and foot. Thank You Again! Wow!

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 01/20/2015

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I'm sorry, but you work full time as well, being the SAHP and taking care of more than your full share of the household duties.

Tell your husband to man up and take his 1/2 of the responsibilities. Did YOU create those kids on your own? Nope, you had help. Did YOU decide to stay home while he worked? I bet not, I bet it was a joint decision.

Well, marriage, and a family, is a joint effort as well. EACH partner puts in 50/50.

Furthermore, a grown man who can't grab his own comfy duds on his way to shower is an immature, irresponsible dickhead, IMO. Quit waiting on him hand and foot, get him to start taking his 50% of the home responsibilities.

Angela - posted on 01/20/2015

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He works full time of course, he does help clean when he gets home n helps make dinner. I feel i should be able to do all house work and take care of him like he should be taken care of..I just find myself very overwhelmed at times trying to fill my mother/wife duties, and wanting to know how i can make it less stress full on myself.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 01/20/2015

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and what exactly does hubby do to contribute? The home isn't your sole responsibility. He lives there as well, and he can contribute.

When our kids were born (I was SAHM), we still split household duties, including laundry. As a matter of fact, once the kids were born, hubby started doing his own laundry so I wouldn't have to worry about the extra steps needed for his.

Tell yours to man up and be part of the partnership.

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