Kat - posted on 03/06/2010 ( 35 moms have responded )
My husband and I have been married 4 years. We have raised our blended family together since the children were all very young. Mine are now 7 and 9. My youngest is a special needs child with ADHD and bipolar disorders. My husband has had 3 incidences over the last 4 years where he has left marks on my youngest that lasted anywhere from 3-7 days. After the first two incidences I very sternly stated that it would not happen again. After the third incidence less than 3 months ago, my children and I left for 36 hours. He promised to stop being so angry and disciplining too harshly and things were great for about a month. But lately he's been getting increasingly worse and worse yet he denies it and blames it on her if there is a mark left, even if I witnessed it. I really feel like I need to leave him so this can stop happening to my child, but my oldest is incredibly attached to him AND probably the biggest issue is the lack of money. I simply don't make enough money to afford a place to live, car to drive, and after school care. Even if we moved to a bad side of town and even if I put the children in a daycare that I would never let them step foot in. Is there a way out (without going through the battered womens and children's shelter) with limited cash? Or is there anyone who has advice on how to make him stop being so angry?