How to let my 6 yr old son stay focused in school?

Marie - posted on 10/13/2015 ( 4 moms have responded )

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Hi. I am single mother for 5 years. my son is now 6 yrs old. I'm also a working mom. I worked now as an Auditor of a construction company and my job is really quite stressful. I'm also into a relationship for 2 years with a businessman and again, it is very stressful! Good thing, we often see each other to divide my time for my son, the relationship and work. I'm also the only one who supports my kid financially and all. My son's father is very irresponsible and does not communicate to our son that much. Anyway, I can see that my son isn't that focus on his school activities lately. His teacher once called me and informed me that his also been bullying some of his classmates lately which isn't really normal to him. He also told his teacher that his mad at his Dad..I've actually asked him why he mentioned this to his teacher, he said he misses his Dad. Any advice or comments from you will be very much appreciated... Thank you. :)

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Pearl Chrishanthini - posted on 10/14/2015

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Dear Marie, men are always men. If you wish to find out if he is really caring for you personally, try to keep a distance away from him. Notice him for a week. If he is really caring, he would come to you to check, the change in your attitude. You can open up at this point and know his views. If he does not show any interest then stay away from him. You are a young mom, you definitely need a partner. I believe that you would definitely have a well-wisher in your family who thinks about you. Tell them your situation and look out for a daddy for your son. If you get your son a perfect dad, he would obviously be a perfect better half. Don't hesitate Marie, your boyfriend is not the only person in this world. He might be an affluent business man. But, there are so many roles a husband has to play...he has to be loving, a friend, a partner, caring...& lots more. So, look only if he is a gentle and polite man. If he really cares for you and loves you with a whole heart. You can have a lasting bond here. Don't worry, everything will be alright soon.

Marie - posted on 10/14/2015

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And also, I want a little advice from you about my boyfriend. He is a very busy man, but we communicate everyday on the phone and often see each other, we go travel out of town for his business meetings and conference, I'm like his secretary.... but in the long run, I get to know his personality and tried my best to cope up with it for a long time although it is very hurtful. We don't talk about us in the future like settle down or getting married, I also don't want to be the first one to ask him that. I also can sense that he isn't ready yet for these things. There are a lot times that I want to give up on him, many times I cried, many times I promised to myself to wake up in reality but I just can't leave him! :(

Marie - posted on 10/13/2015

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I love your comment! :) Thank you for this reply, it touches my heart. It is really hard to be a single mother! Sometimes, no matter how I try to be strong and act like a Daddy to him, still he is looking for his irresponsible Dad that I feel sometimes, all I did for him wouldn't always be enough..... it makes me sad. I am budgeting everything and I just had my Gallbladder operation last March. It is very stressful that no one in my family helped me and all I was thinking of is my son. I send him in a private school, give him toys, hug & kisses him when I'm home but sometimes, when I have a long stress day at work, I get irritated and scold him when he makes naughty things in the house. Sometimes, its hard for me to control my temper. but i love him the most...

Pearl Chrishanthini - posted on 10/13/2015

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Hi Marie, it seems that your little one is doing all these to draw your attention. You might be supporting him financially, but he is a tiny kid with a tender heart. It is really difficult for him to take up all these personal problems in this budding age. When he sees the father of other kids drop them at school or when they talk about their father, he would obviously expect that same to happen with him. All you can do for your son is, spend quality time with him. Listen to him. Walk with him. Meditate and drink loads of water to get relieved from stress. Never show your stress to your kid. I can understand that you are sacrificing so many things for your son. But, he would not understand anything right now. When he grows up, he will be a strong pillar by your side, supporting you.

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