How to lose your baby

Olivia Lydia - posted on 06/01/2011 ( 6 moms have responded )

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He's so much younger than me and sometime's I get the feeling her wants to be free. I understand that, it's normal. But I shouldn't have to feel the pressure of giving into his every need at the moment, especially when I have such strong feelings for him. I don't want to let him go, but I think for the healthiness of my child's view of it, it would be a good thing. I don't want her believe or thinking something that may not even be true. Though, I wish it were.

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Jodi - posted on 06/03/2011

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Olivia, there are still ways that he can have that time with his baby. Just make sure you are reasonable when it comes to working out custody and visitation arrangements. Try to be sure that you can be flexible with their time together, and don't let yourself get into a battle over it :)

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Olivia Lydia - posted on 06/04/2011

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I know. We are working on it. Thank you so much for talking with me about this.

Olivia Lydia - posted on 06/03/2011

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It's a difficult situation. I love him, he like's me (I think), but we don't have a relationship and I don't want to hurt my daughter, if it ends up not being what it looks like. Though I'm proud to have him as my baby's father, I see so much love from him when he's around her. I would never want to take that away from neither one of them.

Thanks for responding. I need someone's feedback.

Jodi - posted on 06/03/2011

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Ok then :) It's just I hear it so often here about women wanting to disallow exes from having anything to do with their babies and I find it really sad. I wasn't sure what you meant by "lose". If you feel it is best to break up with him, and you have tried everything to try and work on the relationship and it just isn't happening for you, I don't believe in staying together for the kids. In the long term it doesn't do the children any favours. So if you TRULY believe you can't be happy with him, then you do what you need to do.

Olivia Lydia - posted on 06/03/2011

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I would never do that to my daughter or to her father. I love both of them, and would never want to hurt neither one of them like that.

Jodi - posted on 06/01/2011

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You are still going to keep him in your baby's life, right? Because otherwise, I'm thinking you should have thought of this before you had a child with this man. Fine, break up with him if this is what you feel you need to do for yourself, but you don't have the right to make a decision about whether he stays in your baby's life unless he is putting her in harm's way.

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