Jessica - posted on 06/03/2013 ( 12 moms have responded )
I need some help ladies. I recently got married (eloped) and we have an 11 month old daughter together. We decided to elope because my family didnt seem to have any interest the whole time i was planning. I was really upset and didnt see my wedding going like that but it was beautiful none the less and i am very happy. Now that i have eloped they haven't spoke to me for weeks. They found out that we only told his parents because we needed as sitter. This has alot to do with my daughter as well, i wont allow them to babysit alone. We have decided to raise our daughter a way that they are not familiar with. By this i mean NO alcohol, NO smoking, NO fighting around her. Not to mention my parents had me very young and they are still young at mind. The smoke pot, drink everyday, fight often and smoke in the house. They keep telling me " all of this was ok for you, and good enough for you" and i say i want to do things differently then i was raised. They have been crying alot and seem really upset and i dont know how to make them see that its not ok for my daughter to be around and why wouldn't they want better for her. Dont get me wrong i most definitely want them in her life and they can see her whenever they want. but they are upset i wont let the babysit and his parents get to. Its a bad situation all around and i never wanted to hurt them but me and my husband refuse to raise her around any of that. They just will not understand.