how to make my twins eat sleep nap together

Neelima - posted on 11/14/2010 ( 25 moms have responded )

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my twins are completely different..in weight in colour in features in nature as well as in their diet and sleep patterns..how do i make their timings together..plz help..thanks for reading out

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Katherine - posted on 11/16/2010

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Miriam - posted on 04/05/2011

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I have 3 month old twins. they eat every 2 hrs. first one than the other (unless both hubby and I are home than at the same time) We put them down at the same time at night usually one will go to sleep about 30 mins. before the other, but in the day they sleep whenever they want to I do not know how to make them take naps at the same time, during the day we have a hard time getting them to go to sleep and they only like to sleep in their swings during the day. advice would be appreciated. :+) when one wakes up at night we wake up the other one to feed him as well sometimes the one we wake up will only take an once or so though. I think sometimes it works and sometimes they each have different needs because they are 2 individuals. Its hard, but hey time flies! :+)

Alta - posted on 11/17/2010

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Try to keep the feet time as close as possible. And bed time. Want i do when i came to bed time. I put them into bed as an time (example 20:00) and say good night. Put the lights off and walk out. And they will go to sleep by them self. Good Luck

Melissa - posted on 11/17/2010

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I have twins but when they first were born, they were on different time schedule... due to twins are different but after awhile when they know that there is another sibling, they seem to get close to each other, especially in feedings, napping and changing... it will happen soon just be patient... best of luck

Neelima - posted on 11/17/2010

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okah as renae kenneison puts it i will try giving their first feed at the same time in the morning..but they would wake up at different timings as they get sleep at a different time everyday..do you advice me to feed them together whether they are awake or not..and sometimes rather many a times one is hungry within one hour itself and the other would just not require it and then from then onwards the schedule is disturbed for the rest of the day..and still my girls dont sleep before 1 or 2 in the night..

Alta - posted on 11/17/2010

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I got twins. (girl & boy) they are nou 4 years old.. From day 1 they, when the 1 sleep the other one follow. And now they still sleep & eat at the same time. Just put them at the same time down to eat en sleep. They will quickly get use to the idee to do some things together and some things not together. Good Luck. Twins are an join. Enjoy every second with them that you can, because time flies.

Kate CP - posted on 11/16/2010

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I WASN'T being judgmental. If you want me to be judgmental I can be. I don't read every thread. I don't WANT to read every damn thread. And I don't HAVE to read every thread. I asked a question and y'all need to pull your panties out of the wad they're in and deal with it.

Emilie - posted on 11/16/2010

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I have twins and at the beginning I had them on a schedule - their schedule in terms of eating and napping and having them sleep in the same room meant one woke the other up so they ate and woke at the same time until I separated them in two rooms at one year old - I did this as they are a boy and a girl and would eventually be separated and at that point their nap patterns were less predictable - my daughter slept less than my son but eating was always at the same time. Good luck!

Renae - posted on 11/16/2010

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Neelima, the success of the schedule will depend heavily on starting it successfully at the start of the day. All babies are hungry as soon as they wake up in the morning, so they should accept the first feed of the day, even if they did not wake naturally for it. From there they will be hungry every 3-4 hours. If you start the schedule right, it should be easier to keep on it for the rest of the day. Maybe some of the mums who have done it with their own twins can offer some ideas here too.

Neelima - posted on 11/16/2010

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i tried doing the same..tried to feed the other wen one was hungry but the not hungry one juz refuses to have it and gives a cuet smile although trying to say "hmmm muma dont try all these tricks on me" :) i really dont know what to do..but i will keep trying..

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Do for one as you do for the other. If one is hungry... feed them both. If one is tired... put them both down for a nap, etc.

At least that's what I did w/ my girls. They were on a schedule from birth and it was probably the only thing that saved the last ounce of my sanity in that first year.

I do know a woman w/ twins (that are 6 now) that weren't on the same schedule and it worked for them, but I have NO IDEA how she survived as it wouldn't have worked for us at all.

Anna - posted on 11/15/2010

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I have twin girls that are 4 months old. I strongly suggest getting them on the same schedule. Mine nap together and eat together(still nursing). I have a schedule of when I want them to sleep and eat. They are on 2 naps a day and going to bed around 7:30-8:00pm. If one wakes before the other, I either try to her back to sleep. If not I do not let her eat until the schedule time. Now if she is starving, I wake the other and make them both eat together.
It is all about training them. Sounds a little like a dog:) But don't get stressed out. Enjoy the time.

Susan - posted on 11/15/2010

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I have twins. whomever woke first ate first then I woke baby two. they go to bed at the same time awake or not. after a year or so, one may want to give up one of their naps and then you have to let them or it can atleast become their quiet time.you will go crazy if they don't stay on the same schedule.

Neelima - posted on 11/15/2010

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thanks amy..and for kate and people like kate i would only like to say that we all are humans and really got no right to judge and insult anybody..and when asked for suggestions and solutions we should try to limit ourselves to support and suggestions..after all we all are just humans...cool it kate..dont get hyper for no reasons..this site is for getting and giving help..so stick to that alone..take care..

Renae - posted on 11/14/2010

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@Kate, I didn't even realise it was the same poster - shows how much attention I pay sometimes! :)

Renae - posted on 11/14/2010

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Ladies, just wanted to elaborate on my previous post for those who might find it strange that I recommended putting such young babies on a routine.



Most professionals, even the 100% demand feeding in any situation advocates, usually recommend routines for twins. Twins can literally keep a mother up all night by one waking just as the other goes to sleep and can make any time to do anything such as shower just impossible during the day. It puts a lot of pressure on the mother, twins are a whole different kettle of fish, and the risks of PND also soar through the roof when there is no structure to the environment. Dont get me wrong, easy twins who feed every 3 hours and sleep a 6 hour stretch at 8 weeks old can be easier than some single babies, but that usually isn't the case. I haven't actually had any clients with twins, not ever, so I cant talk from any personal experience, I am going on what the professional recommendation usually is.

Kate CP - posted on 11/14/2010

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Bully for her. I didn't read any of the responses nor did I post in that thread. I read the initial post and moved on. Excuse me for not reading every single post and topic on this forum.

Kate CP - posted on 11/14/2010

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How was I judging her?! I asked her a question! In a previous post she said she wanted to leave one of the babies with her mother. I'm confused not judgmental! Lighten up, lady.

Amy - posted on 11/14/2010

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I don't have twins but I have 2 different cousins that had twins and that was there sanity you have to get them eating and sleeping at the same time or else you will be up 24 hours a day and would be useless! When one wakes to feed in the middle of the night to eat you wake the other at the same time to eat. When one goes down for a nap you need to try and get the twin down for a nap! I would definitely join the twins groups I'm sure those moms will have useful tips to adjust their schedules!

Kate-that's not really helpful obviously she is looking for support and suggestions not someone to keep judging her!

Cassie - posted on 11/14/2010

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It might be a good idea for you to join a twins community on COM. This way, you are connected to thousands of other mothers of twins who will be able to give you some great advice and help with raising your twins.

Here is a link to one group.
http://www.circleofmoms.com/twins

Katherine - posted on 11/14/2010

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Um, I wouldn't recommend trying to do this at all. They are 2 seperate human beings, they are going to be different. Of course I have never had twins, but I would think that that would not be advisable.

Renae - posted on 11/14/2010

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I dont often recommend set routines for baby's of this age (I looked at your profile to see they are 3 months) EXCEPT when talking about twins! I have never had twins, so maybe some mums with real experience can back me up on this, but I believe that life with twins is much easier on a routine.



I suggest starting a feed-play-sleep routine. Wake them at the same time every morning (6 or 7am would be normal for their age) and feed them at the same time, then play for a little while, then they have a nap. Each feed cycle (3 hours) should consist of one feed to start with, then some awake time or "play" time and end with a nap, waking at the start of the next cycle to feed. At 3 months you can expect them to be able to stay awake between 30 and 90 minutes maximum. The first sleep of the day usually needs to be quite soon, like after 30-40 minutes of waking up. When the first tired signs show on one of them, they both go to bed. You also need to remember to let each of them take as much as they want as their bodies will regulate to the routine feeding and adjust the intake according to what they need, rather than adjusting the schedule to what they need.



Also consider joining a "twins group", basically a mums group for twins. There are lots of issues you will face with twins, like having no choice but to listen to one cry while you tend to the other for example - and other mums with twins will have a better understanding of what you are going through.

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