Cathy - posted on 03/05/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )
Brief background - it's been heard before. My son met a giri, she got pregnant (very early in relationship). My advice at that moment was to wait until after baby was born to get married since they barely even knew each other.. they did, and then got married when their son was almost two.
Now... less than a year (10 months) into their marriage.. they are having isssues.
Here is my dilema... I NEVER liked her, and still don't. And I mean REALLY DON'T LIKE HER. She is superficial, and needy and MUST be the center of attention at all times - a REAL drama queen that would give any of the "Housewives" on TV a run for their money. My son comes from a strong family background...yes, I was a single mom, but my extended family has always been tight and remain close to this day. I can say the things about her above because during their relationship she has been a part of some big losses that proved my point. My mother (my son't grandmother) passed away and then my husband (his stepfather) passed away 6 months later. During both of these sad and emotional times, she still found a way to make herself the center of attention.
Basically... she is just NOT a good person. Her background, family life and a previous marriage that she didn't even tell her family occurred are just a few of the highlights of this manipulative woman.
So... now that she is showing her true colors to him... how do I possibly give him advice when I really want to tell thim to RUN.... FAST?!! It is so difficult since he has a son with her. And... since his biological father was NEVER in his life.. he has sworn to himself that he will never abandon his son. But at what cost to his self esteem and happiness?
They are attending marriage counseling... but I fear that she is going to manipulate that too. In my opinion, she is reaching for a reason to leave, how can I tell my son to let her go?