Nicole - posted on 06/26/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )
Some history, I have a 13 year old son, by boyfriend has a 6.5 year old and a 3 year old son. We have an 11month old daughter together. I am really struggling with his eldest child, he is very attention seeking and demands constant supervision. One of us, usually boyfriend because I am increasingly frustrated, has to spend 99 percent of the time he is with us correcting his behavior and resolving the conflicts he creates between the other siblings. I am growing resentful toward the 6 year old and feel guilty about it. His mother does not provide structure or discipline and he is an only child when at his moms. He does not know how to interact with other children and is constantly in trouble at school, before that he was asked to leave several daycares for his behavior, now at camp he cries bc he doesn’t want to go. He is still wetting his pants during the day and at night. I feel like my time and attention should be spent caring for my 11 month old but when he comes over the whole house is thrown into chaos and the other kids get put on the sideline while we are trying to help with his behavior. How do I deal with the inner conflict I feel for resenting him and therefore are less tolerant of his bad behavior and the growing frustration I am feeling toward my boyfriend bc I don’t want the oldest son to keep coming over and throwing our lives into utter chaos. Please help....