How to respond to the fact that my 15 year old daughter had sex?

Irina - posted on 07/18/2015 ( 4 moms have responded )

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My daughter, now 15 had been dating this boy for 1.5 years. They love each other and have a lot in common. They both are A students, like to play magic card games, and are serious about their relationship. We let them date and go to each other homes under only condition that the doors will never be closed and parents have to be home. We met his parents and his Mom promised me that they will be supervised. Now my daughter has told me that when they told her they "wanted it", his Mom gave them a condom... I feel betrayed. My daughter also insists that they decided not to do it again, because both of them did not like it and realized that it is too early for them to do this, and they want to just be good friends and do things together. My husband and I don't want her to go to his house again, which brought my daughter to tears. She keeps telling us that it is all over, they won't do this again, she does not want this and so does he... I keep telling her that I love her and want the best for her. What shall we do? We don't want this to happen again, yet, we don't want to shut our daughter completely out and have her grow resentful...

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Irina - posted on 07/18/2015

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I absolutely agree. We are working now on abolishing her to go to his house and they will see each other only under our supervision. Thank you so much for your reply, I appreciate your willingness to help.

Irina

Irina - posted on 07/18/2015

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Thank you very much for your suggestions, they are in line of what we decided to do. It is so very hard!!! Thank you again.

Dove - posted on 07/18/2015

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I would let her know that for the time being she will not be going to his house. You are proud of her for telling the truth and the maturity that they are showing by realizing it was a mistake... but the trust was broken (because of the agreed upon boundaries) and trust takes time to re-establish. She is welcome to continue seeing him at YOUR house... and even make sure you invite him for dinner and stuff, so that he knows you are not holding any resentment towards him... but that for them to be at HIS house is going to take sometime and rebuilding of the trust.

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