TJ - posted on 03/13/2014 ( 5 moms have responded )
My 8 year old daughter does not feel that we appreciate her/ love her/ care for her enough as we don't show appreciation by buying toys (even though we can). As a matter of fact, she has hardly ever played with toys which she already has & does not care if we give away some of those (with her knowledge) to underprivileged children. She plays with only few specific toys but wants us to give her the ones which she does not play with generally (we have tried giving her toys she wanted & we could afford.. but still she did not play with those later). I feel she just looks around & sees her cousins & friends having truckload of toys & wants the same.
When I speak to her, she understands that she does not really play with toys. And there are other ways of appreciating/ loving/ caring which she too gets.... But that lasts for only some time & she eventually falls back on her thoughts.
We do show appreciation by cooking her fav dish or making/ buying sweets she likes or taking her to a movie occasionally. I tell her or other people at home who were not around at that time (in descriptive specific/ targeted way) if she does something well or she has shown improvement in some way.
Should I buy the toys just because we afford those even though we know that she doesn't play with those?
Am I going wrong somewhere? Is this normal? How to tackle this?