Tyrae - posted on 03/20/2011 ( 10 moms have responded )
So since having my daughter my mother has spent a lot more time around my house than usual. This would all be fine but she keeps on trying to get me to parent like she did. She always manages to time her visits right when I get my daughter down for a nap, and she's a light sleeper for the first half hour or so. So my mom always wakes her up and than once she's awake she wants to stay awake and I pretty much need to fight her back to sleep. I don't use the cry-it-out method, and I never will, it just doesn't seem right to me. But my mother will constantly tell me to just go put her in her room and leave her there and let her cry herself to sleep. I keep on telling her that's not what I do but she continues to say it. And, if I can't get her to sleep she will grab her from me tell me I'm doing it all wrong and walk into another room with my daughter (btw I'm 22).
My daughter also has one kidney, so we are watching when we give her food very closely because certain things can screw up her kidney. My mother seems to think that I should be feeding my daughter solid foods now (she is only 4 months tomorrow) and I don't want to feed her food yet till she's at least 6 months. My mother doesn't seem to understand this, and when she's here she tries shoving food in my daughters mouth, she shoved a whole orange slice in there one day and I yelled at her asking her what she was doing and she said "I'm just getting her to try new foods like you should be doing".
I just don't know what to do. It's driving me crazy and soon I'm either going to snap at her, or I'm going to move to a different town so she can't come visit me so often. While I was pregnant she kept on saying that I would never be able to bf my daughter because she couldn't, and that using cloth diapers was a horrible idea (back in her time they were horrible, they aren't anymore). I'm still going strong with both of those 4 months later and I am proud to say it. I just don't know how to get her to back off without hurting her feelings.
Please please help before I go crazy!