How to set boundries with step mom?


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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 08/25/2015




Are you bio mom wanting to set boundaries, or are you a step child...?

Boundaries should be determined and agreed upon by all parties, but one must understand that imposing certain boundaries (the kids can never call the step any form of 'mom', for example) is unrealistic.

MaryAnn - posted on 08/25/2015




Details of the situation? Boundaries with step parents can mean a number of things.
Is this a step parent navigating forming a bond with a child? Is this a step parent acting on behalf of her spouse? Is this a case of boundaries you need to discuss with your ex, or is there abuse going on? In my personal experience, the issues percieved to be between a step mom and a biomom tend to actually have nothing to do with the relationship between the biomom and the step mom... But more likely insecurity as a parent or difficulties communicating with an ex.

Corinne - posted on 08/25/2015




You set boundaries by being the parent and not the step parent. We are all mothers and fathers to all the children that pass through out lives. If we chose which ones to step-parent to instead of just parenting to, we are starting off on the wrong foot. I have been a mother, step-mother, aunt, and friend to many children, but I am always a parent to all.

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