Joyce - posted on 12/14/2013 ( 7 moms have responded )
Okay, I know that most of the bratty behavior is my fault. I have given into her, and not stuck with punishments since she was born. I tend to feel guilty and give in. What I have done is: I have a child that doesn't listen, argues, manipulates to get her way, and cries about everything (wailing when crying doesn't work). It's gotten so bad that she is not allowed to spend any prolonged amount of time at families houses, and everyone scatters when shes around. Its a constant battle, that I was spending most days trying to avoid her. She has 3 sisters, none of which behave this way. She is the only one that takes me being nice as a weakness. Its gotten to the point the point that something has to change because it's ruining our relationship. I talked to her yesterday and explained that her behavior is unacceptable, and that I was sorry because I have taught her to act that way by showing her that it works to get her way. That I have to stick to what I say, and that it's not going to be easy, but we will change together, and for the better so that we can have a good relationship with each other. That being said, she got into trouble for ignoring me, and her chores. She had a time out in her room for 30 mins. I explained that if she came out we would add more time (30 mins). This was Friday night, Before the 30 mins were up, she was already up to Saturday. So I upped the time and said if she came out again I was adding a day now, we are up to Tuesday. When we got to this point, I hung a belt on her door as a reminder for her not to come out. Is this too extreme? I feel I have to stick to it or she will look at me as a chump, but part of me feels like I'm being mean.