How to stop co-sleeping? Desperate

Erica - posted on 01/23/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )

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My daughter is 17.5m & refuse to sleep in her own bed. She's been sleeping in my bed with me for the past 5months & now I need my bed back and to get sleep! I tried placing her in her crib & she goes nuts where she ends up throwing up. I dont know what to do. I cant just place her in the crib, shut the door & walk away and ignore her. I am so exhausted inside & out I just dont know what to do anymore. I'm sick & tired of her bedtime being my bedtime, if i even move my arm, she'll wake right up so once i lie down with her (she will not fall asleep her own her either, EVER*) so once she lies down, i have to lie down & go to sleep too. My daughter is very irritable during the day now & since about 3m's ago, she began having really bad seperation anxiety that i believe is due to sleeping with me. Ugh Does anyone have any suggestions, im desperate!

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Connie - posted on 01/23/2012

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do you have anyone who could help you? a family member or a friend, if so you may need to remove yourself from the equation. let someone else put her to bed. I know that you want to believe that she will be terrible for someone else and that no one else will be able to handle her but the truth is that often they are better for others. they learn very early how to work mom lol. it will take some time but she will learn to comfort herself and sleep but you need help. my oldest did the crying until she puked. I had to let someone help me so that I could convince myself it was possible for her to sleep on her own....she is cranky because she is not sleeping either. some separation anxiety is normal but the only way she is going to get over it is by you leaving her and her seeing that you come back again. good luck and God bless!

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Erica - posted on 01/26/2012

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Connie P. - Thank you so much for the encouragement and helpful information. I am definitely going to try to remove myself from the equation. It is going to be hard, for my daughter and myself. Usually if I tried to have someone else put her to bed, even for naps, she would go insane & not fall asleep for hours, or atleast until I came and put her down. I'm going to take your suggestions and have someone come by & help me for a bit. My daughter is in love with my dad, her grandpa, so he would be my best bet. Hopefully reinforcements help! Thanks again! keep you posted. I am really glad I have other mothers to talk to and ask questions about things. I am a 1st time mom, if ya couldnt tell, and I really don't know many mothers of young children, so i am really glad there is a website like this out there to help me & sort of guide me through this new chapter in my life.

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