how to stop feeling like life is boring as a stay at home mum

Mary - posted on 06/28/2014 ( 6 moms have responded )

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I am completely new to this site so dont know whether this is in the right place. Im currently a trainee social worker but just doing the degree in case being a stay at home mum. I already have a undergraduate degree. I just wonder if this is all there is to life and sometimes get quite bored and lonely despite having quite a lot of friends. I go to lots of baby clubs but worry about wen my son is older I will feel life has just passed me by. How do you stay happy ?

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Ev - posted on 06/28/2014

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What did you think being a stay at home mom was about? It is what it is: Taking care of the family, the house, and doing what it takes to maintain it all. What you have to do is become imaginative to keep from being bored. I grew up with a mother who was a stay at home mom for most of the entirety of my life. She cleaned house, she tended me and my sister and she baked. She also for a while made our clothing for school and home, did crafts that made a lot of our Christmas presents, and watched soap operas (when they were worth watching). Now a days with all this tech available a lot of women I note who are out and about with their kids even are glued to their phones, tablets or laptops. They do not seem bored. To me being on the computer or tech are more boring than watching a movie and doing some craft work. I was both a stay at home mom and a working mom. How did I do it? When I was at home my kids were small enough I had to be on the go and keep an eye on them as I did the house work. As they got older, if I was not working, we did a lot of things together. Sometimes I would take my MIL to town when she needed to go and her husband could not do it because of work. Its simple really, use that imagination of yours and create a hobby to do. As the kids do get older, they do more for themselves so you have to use your brains to figure out things to do with them and around your house.

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Ashley - posted on 06/30/2014

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Taking care of children is deff a full time job.. All you can do is make the best memories you can with your child and trust that everything else will fall into place. I am on the same page with the whole friend thing. It suck but I guess things could always be worse! I hope things start looking up for you and your family. In the mean time I'm always here if you want to talk! :)

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Thanks for the replies they have been so helpful. I guess part of it is guilt that I'm not supporting myself but looking after a baby is full time work. I have great friends but no one I can see in the day or walk to as they live far away and work full time

Ashley - posted on 06/30/2014

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I am currently a stay at home mom of a 4 year old and a 2 year old, I got pregnant at 17 and from then till now have not had to work so all I do is stay in the house with my kids, so I know how you feel. There are days where I think that exact same thing and look back on the past 4 years and wonder where my teenage years have gone. When my friends were partying and having fun I was making bottles and changing diapers. I just keep telling myself that once my kids are in school and a little older I will be able to do a few things on my own every now and then, and make up for the time I feel I have missed out on but right now it is about making their (my children's') lives the best that I can. They need me more than I need friends.

I hope this helped you..If you need someone to talk to I am only a click away!

Ev - posted on 06/28/2014

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As I said, Mia P, you need to use your imagination to come up with things to keep busy.

Mia - posted on 06/28/2014

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I was in the same situation until I realised that you need to have your own interests as well to think about. Yes, life is all about the baby, and when you lose a piece of your identity you can sometimes get bored as you worry about little things.

I would look at finding some things you like doing at home, whether it be painting, working out to a DVD, exercise outside and getting yourself busy with things to do that involve the baby yet aren't about the baby.

Life just isn't about being at home like our parents and their parents did. They never had all the amazing technologies we have now so back then baking, cleaning and home duties were all a wife could do. Which would bore the crap out of me if that's all there was to do! I started a hobby in fashion and now have a fully fledged business and retail stores etc all from being bored at home. Sometimes it's the perfect time to start being creative mentally and making your brain active so you can be mentally stimulated as well.

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