how to stop my 18year old to stop smoking weed in our home and bringing it onto our property??

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Brittany - posted on 06/26/2012

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I agree with Little Miss, if he is not respecting your house rules - ask him to leave. She is right in saying your not kicking him onto the street - give him notice, and tell him if he cant respect your rules, he needs to live somewhere else.

Dont be so hard on yourself! This is an 18 year old man. If he wants to use pot you are not going to stop him, let him grow up.

Amy - posted on 06/26/2012

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Since your sister is so concerned maybe he can go live with her and she can continue enabling him. Like everyone else said he's 18 he's an adult he'll either find his way or decide he can live by your rule. You said he had some issues is there something else going on that would make you feel guilty for putting your foot down? I know as a mom it's easy to feel guilty over almost anything but you don't have to keep tolerating it and sometimes the only way to get through to someone is to let them go.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 06/26/2012

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If anything, you are enabling him by not taking action. REAL action.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 06/26/2012

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Ok, pot is pot. It is not heroin, meth or cocaine. It is not addicting, and no he does not need rehab for it. He is 18 years old, a legal adult. Telling him no pot in the house or smoking on your property or he needs to move out is not kicking him out onto the streets. You can even give him a month to find a place to live. If he is not going to college, he needs to be working anyway. So, he has a job, he finds a place to live and he pays for it himself. He is not a 14 year old kid that you would just be kicking out on the streets. He is a grown up at this point. You don't want pot in your house, this is going to be your best bet. He will not stop just cause you say so. You need to give him a reason to stop.

You are not going to be able to get him into any "camp". he is not a little kid. If you have been trying to get him to stop for 10 months, you should already know the answer. Stop treating him like a baby, and treat him like the adult he is. Expect more from him.

Louise - posted on 06/26/2012

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Lay down the law, if he wants to live there he stops bringing it into the house and smoking it in the house. If he can not stop then he has to go and live somewhere else. Simple!

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