How to stop my 2 1/2 yr old son from drinking formula

Jennaveve - posted on 11/25/2009 ( 40 moms have responded )

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He drinks Lactogen 2 and refuses to drink anything else.

I have tried Nespray, Everfresh milk, Nestle milkshake etc. He drinks juice but seems when he wants to sleeps he only wants his formula. He drinks out of a cup/glass but his formula is from a bottle. When he is asleep at night and wakes for his bottle, I give him fresh milk and he takes it, but once he fully wakes and realises, he pushes the bottle away and says he wants HIS bottle.

Do you think I am too in a hurry to ween him off his bottle and formula. He eats well and weighs almost 16kg's.

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Lizl - posted on 11/27/2009

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To get my 28 month old son off his formula and onto cows milk, we very slowly mixed the two adding more milk and less formula each week. When his last tin of formula was finnished we gave him staight milk and there were no complaints.
Good luck.

Michelle - posted on 11/27/2009

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My 14 yr old was on a bottle and special formula until he was 4 yrs old with doctors orders as everytime we took him off the bottle he lost so much weight I was feeding him 6 meals a day and still could not keep the weight on him as drinking from a cup allowed him to gulp and then he would throw up. The bottle slowed down the rate of speed liquids when into him. We still have issues of being underweight and he has to drink 2 ensure daily through a straw as still has issues with drinking to fast sometimes. My second son was weaned from formula at 2 and half and the bottle around the same time but when he is stressed out he still gets one and he is 10 yrs old. You have to decide what is BEST for YOUR child and ignore the critics

Tumi - posted on 11/26/2009

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I totally understand and appreciate where you are, my 3yr old daughter only stopped drinking from a bottle 3months ago. She had been drinking everything else from a cup for over 2yrs however refused to drink Nido (milk) from anything else except a bottle, which was also during bedtime. I totally understand the struggle of a child who refuses to sleep without a bottle however it just got too much and I threw away all her bottles, without seeing them she couldn't keep wining about it. In addition, I knew she was ready because if she was sleeping anywhere else except for home, a bottle was never a factor. For about 3 days since weening her off the bottle though I gave her a pacifier, just so she could fall asleep. Thereafter, the pacifier "got lost" and we have not had a problem since. She still refuses to drink fresh milk however the paeditrician advised that we rather substitute with milk products like yogurt, milkshakes etc. Hope you get peace of mind, don't be too hard on him or yourself, parenthood works different for each child and parent.

L.B - posted on 11/26/2009

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Every child is different, Breastfeeding is some countries for example is completely standard for the first two years ( obviously no solely) If your little chap is happy and you are happy, don't see why you should worry. Are there any known set backs to having your child on formula once a day at this age? Forget "Milk" Few people know that cows milk generally is not good for one. ( read" Omnivores dilemma" it is a serious eye-opener on cattle and their bi products, plus staples like corn in our diets) Milk and the farming of is something governments have invested so much money in that we think and are told that we need it. Calcium ( and fats) are more abundant in sesame seeds for example, these can be found in all different forms. For a two year old I would suggest first make sure he isnt allergic as so many are to nuts and seasame, then if alls well, try "Halva" spun Sesame seeds it is sold in a block form usually in health food shops- Ive yet to find a tot who turns his / her nose up at it. There is as much calcium in one teaspoon of seasame seeds as there are in a pint of milk!! This is good for maintaining mothers bones too! and is more readily absorbed by the human body than milk. Vitamin A and C( also present in "MILK") are available in other foods too and water well there is nothing wrong with water from other sources either!! eg a glass of. That really sums Milk's alleged beneficial qualities in total. Whole, Skimmed, semi what ever it isn't needed. We are just lead to believe it is needed. Govenments also applied pressure in marketing formula to new mother in the 60's, we now know mother milk is best. Formula is great for those whose milk doesn't kick, saves lives even, for the mother who has to work no maternity leave etc... but really is a pointless regime of plastic bottles, sterilizing kits , chemicals etc, which we don't need in our lives or land fill. nuff said

Vinnessa - posted on 11/26/2009

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You need to talk to a pediatrician change his formula to 3 per cent milk

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Jennaveve how did you get your 2 1/2 year old off the formula and bottle. My son won't drink MILK, anything with milk this is the only thing for dairy products.... He is 27 months old in 3 months he will be 2 1/2 I need to get him off as now that's all he wants and fruit to eat.

Jodi - posted on 11/30/2009

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Quoting Jennaveve:

Thanks so much for all your help.

Do know that I have tried mixing his formula with cow milk and he didn't even seem to notice the difference.

How long do you think I should do this? Should I keep his mixture this way for about a week and by each new week make the amount of formula a bit less?

Thanks once again for all the advice.



If he is not noticing the cows milk when it is mixed with the formula, try increasing the percentage of cows milk in the bottle each week until it is finally almost all cows milk.  If you just increase it gradually he probably won't even notice when you finally cut the formula out altogether.

Jodi - posted on 11/30/2009

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Quoting Christina:



Quoting Jodi:




Actually Christina, that's why they make follow on and Toddler formulas, so they are actually perfectly healthy for a toddler as a milk replacement.   Just wanted to correct you on your information :)









But the original poster was talking about the regular formula. And another one woman said "we had some left over and no one to give it to", meaning they were still using infant formula. So you can correct me on my information, even though I have known for quite some time that they make Toddler Formula, but when you are talking about Cow's milk vs. Infant Formula and the child is over a year old, you are supposed to go with the Cow's milk. Even if you are wanting to give your child the Toddler formula though, it is only supposed to act as a supplement, like a few ounces at a time and no more than a few times per day b/c cow's milk has just about everything a 1+ year old needs when you are talking about beverages other than water. Thank you.






I see nowhere in the OP where she specified whether infant formula or toddler formula.  My apologies if she has mentioned she was using infant formula somewhere else in the thread. 

Debi - posted on 11/30/2009

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Try giving him whole milk in a cup. and in his bottle try mixing it with 20/80 then after a few times do 40/60 then keep taking away formula by the time it is all whole milk he should be with out a bottle as well good luck

Heidi - posted on 11/30/2009

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A lot of these responses seem kind of critical to me. Personally, I would not worry so much if your son is still drinking formula at night. It sounds like he wants it for comfort. Many toddlers are still breastfeeding for comfort at his age, so why not a little formula? There are a lot worse things he could be asking for! My only concern might be the effect it is having on his teeth. I'd get him checked out by a dentist and if his teeth are ok, I wouldn't worry about it. Maybe give it a few months and try gradually transitioning to a sippy cup of water. Good luck!

Jennaveve - posted on 11/29/2009

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Thanks so much for all your help.

Do know that I have tried mixing his formula with cow milk and he didn't even seem to notice the difference.

How long do you think I should do this? Should I keep his mixture this way for about a week and by each new week make the amount of formula a bit less?

Thanks once again for all the advice.

Jennifer Elizabeth - posted on 11/29/2009

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He should not be having a bottle at all at night he is only waking up out of habit not hunger.Go cold turkey he will only cry for it for 2 or 3 nights .Still give him formula during the day if that is what he likes.

Stacy - posted on 11/27/2009

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Have you tried a lactose free milk? Maybe try to break him from his bottle at night, and that may solve your problem to. Just a couple ideas. My cousin use to give her kids lactose free milk. Can't hurt!

C. - posted on 11/27/2009

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Quoting Jodi:



Quoting Christina:




Quoting Marissa:

Someone asked who the parent is- good question! Only YOU can make this decision, and let no one judge you for it. My daughter gave up the bottle at 15 months, and she and I were both emotionally ready for it. Formula wise, it doesn't hurt anything for your child to keep drinking it- my daughter did becuase we had some left over and no one to give it to, so we used it up to a year and a half. And we still use the Stage 2 varieties and she is 18 months, as well as whole milk and juice (watered down, of course). Formula is healthy, so why sweat it? My pediatrician never worried too much, as long as my daughter is healthy. Only you and YOUR CHILD's doctor can make this decision, don't let strangers on a web page guilt you into doing anything.







 








 








The formula won't hurt, no. But!!! But, babies NEED the fat from whole milk that most formulas do not have so they can continue growing and staying healthy. It is clinically proven that whole milk is better than formula for the baby when they are old enough (starting around 1 year).. And a 2 1/2 year old is beyond old enough!









 






Actually Christina, that's why they make follow on and Toddler formulas, so they are actually perfectly healthy for a toddler as a milk replacement.   Just wanted to correct you on your information :)





 



But the original poster was talking about the regular formula. And another one woman said "we had some left over and no one to give it to", meaning they were still using infant formula. So you can correct me on my information, even though I have known for quite some time that they make Toddler Formula, but when you are talking about Cow's milk vs. Infant Formula and the child is over a year old, you are supposed to go with the Cow's milk. Even if you are wanting to give your child the Toddler formula though, it is only supposed to act as a supplement, like a few ounces at a time and no more than a few times per day b/c cow's milk has just about everything a 1+ year old needs when you are talking about beverages other than water. Thank you.

Vicky - posted on 11/27/2009

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Have you tried mixing milk with a little chocolate or strawberry syrup? My two and a half year old won't take plain milk either. But he loves it with the flavors in it and you don't have to add alot. I also fed him homo milk until he was 2 and then I switched him to 2% after that.

Kristina - posted on 11/27/2009

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i have 3 kids and they are 14 .7.10 and only had this prob with one of them. at night i gave a bottle and i would not give him one all day only a sippy cup he would not drink all day for about 3 days but at night he still had the one bottle soon he figures out that he was not getting his way and started to drink from his sippy just give him what you want him to drink and not what he wants so he nows what you want him to do

Jodi - posted on 11/26/2009

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Quoting Christina:



Quoting Marissa:

Someone asked who the parent is- good question! Only YOU can make this decision, and let no one judge you for it. My daughter gave up the bottle at 15 months, and she and I were both emotionally ready for it. Formula wise, it doesn't hurt anything for your child to keep drinking it- my daughter did becuase we had some left over and no one to give it to, so we used it up to a year and a half. And we still use the Stage 2 varieties and she is 18 months, as well as whole milk and juice (watered down, of course). Formula is healthy, so why sweat it? My pediatrician never worried too much, as long as my daughter is healthy. Only you and YOUR CHILD's doctor can make this decision, don't let strangers on a web page guilt you into doing anything.





 






 






The formula won't hurt, no. But!!! But, babies NEED the fat from whole milk that most formulas do not have so they can continue growing and staying healthy. It is clinically proven that whole milk is better than formula for the baby when they are old enough (starting around 1 year).. And a 2 1/2 year old is beyond old enough!





 



Actually Christina, that's why they make follow on and Toddler formulas, so they are actually perfectly healthy for a toddler as a milk replacement.   Just wanted to correct you on your information :)

Jennaveve - posted on 11/26/2009

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Thank you sooo much for all your advise. I may well try and work on most of your methodes ,but Jordan is a strong will child. He was looked after by my mom inlaw since the age of 3months until over a yr old. I am struggling today with getting him to do things my way. Last night a spoke to out pastor as I feel I have nothing more to give my son. I am at my wits end.

Some of you may think that I am trying to get over his tantrums lightly by giving in to his ways, but that sure is not the case. I am seriously trying but with no luck. He gets tought right from wrong at home but by granny he gets applauded if he does something bad that may be seen as funny to her. I spank him EVERYDAY, speal to him EVERYDAY etc. I TRY my best. I am just so afraid that in the end he will start to resent me and prefer her over me. He already stands at the front door with his bag, demanding to go to granny if he doesn't get his way at home. I pray for strenght, patience, guidance and love for my child. I have 2 boys, the oldest one is 6 and I was a stay at home mom until he was 2yrs and there's a huge difference between my sons.

I love my boys but sometimes a feeling of hatred pushes up inside of me for Jordan but I do pray about it everyday. I am not a bad mother, I am just a mother who needs help in trying to make right where granny has failed to do, due to the fact that she loves him sooo much that she don't realise that she's spoiling him. I've tried speaking to her about it but she says she's making time for them while she still can.

She was going through a messy divorce when we had her look after Jordan, so they were each other's comfort. She really doesn't see the fact that we truly are struggling with him. Only she knows how to handle him :-(

C. - posted on 11/26/2009

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Quoting Marissa:

Someone asked who the parent is- good question! Only YOU can make this decision, and let no one judge you for it. My daughter gave up the bottle at 15 months, and she and I were both emotionally ready for it. Formula wise, it doesn't hurt anything for your child to keep drinking it- my daughter did becuase we had some left over and no one to give it to, so we used it up to a year and a half. And we still use the Stage 2 varieties and she is 18 months, as well as whole milk and juice (watered down, of course). Formula is healthy, so why sweat it? My pediatrician never worried too much, as long as my daughter is healthy. Only you and YOUR CHILD's doctor can make this decision, don't let strangers on a web page guilt you into doing anything.


 



 



The formula won't hurt, no. But!!! But, babies NEED the fat from whole milk that most formulas do not have so they can continue growing and staying healthy. It is clinically proven that whole milk is better than formula for the baby when they are old enough (starting around 1 year).. And a 2 1/2 year old is beyond old enough!

Karen - posted on 11/26/2009

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Our HV recommended that we slowly changed it and it seemed to work, so substituting an ounce of formula for an ounce of whole milk and then a little more and so on. She didn't seem to notice it and slowly we got her on to the whole milk.
Erin also very much used the bottle as a comforter and didn't want milk or bottles in the day but always wanted her bottle in bed. After a while she stopped of her own accord, as she was drinking only a little of it, and that's when we stopped with a little moaning at first. I can't remember her age but she was in her three's. She always drank water or juice during the day.

Terleeah - posted on 11/26/2009

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I agree with Abbie, bottlea at night r more of a comfort thing then the fact he is waking up hungry. I give my sone who is 18months old some juice sometimes, it's called popperjuice and it has no added sugar and contains 200% of his recommended Vitamin C intake. He thinks it's a treat, doesnt get it all that often. It's hard and u may have some rough times ahead here and there but sometimes they have to make the transition in the way that u tell them 'well mummy has not got any more special milk, let's try this one,' like full cream. I have my son on formula still, he only needs one bottle a day and has an extra if he is sick or really unsettled. I also make up the formula in about 1/2 of the bottle and top it up with full cream milk form the bottle. My best advice would firstly be stop associating bottle with sleep time if its possible, go shopping together and buy a special new cup, give it a go it may work. As for any judgemental comments on here, u r his mum, u know best and dont let anyone else tell you otherwise. The formula I have my son on actually contains bout the same amt of sugar as full cream milk.
Hope this helps.. :)

Wendy - posted on 11/26/2009

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My Kids have grown up...but I remember that before mine would go to bed they would brush their teeth.. This was a fun time because they were feeling a bit more grown up... and besides they had teeth that they had to learn to care for.. Anyway it must have been the taste of the toothpaste that was a huge turn off for them. That coupled with reading bedtime stories (which would put me to sleep first) and a cuddle toy seemed to make it work in our house... I had a thing that in the bed room at bed time was bed time ..If you were hungry then the food was in the kitchen... The car wasn't a resturante either. Lets know how you go... You will work it out..

Brennan - posted on 11/26/2009

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We simply stopped giving formula at one year of age and started our child on organic whole milk. Of course, my son was also nursing some and weened himself around sixteen months of age. I personally feel that while it might make for some unpleasantness for a few days, his bottle and formula should be taken away, as he's far too old for them. That might sound cruel to some, but I never allowed my child to control situations by throwing fits and getting his way as a result and bottles at night can and do lead to something called milk rot on the teeth, which is not a pleasant experience for the child.

Samantha - posted on 11/26/2009

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A baby should be on whole milk at a year old. And then weaned to a sippy cup or cup at 15 months. That was the advice of our pediatrician. Its time to say bye bye to formula and bottles...

Fernanda - posted on 11/26/2009

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I think it's up to your pediatrician. My sun gave up his formula after making 2 years but I had the same problem, he refuses any milk. I've tried almost every milk in the market and for many month he only accept one brand, Vigor that is fresh milk. He use to refuse the other milk before trying it and we discovered it was because of the strong smell that milk has. About give up bottle I think they know what they can do. At school my sun drinks from a cup but the breakfast and when he goes to sleep he still want he's bottle. He will gave up bottle slowly and when is necessary.

Kelly - posted on 11/26/2009

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Hi there. Don't panic about it all. It will be a slow transition from what he's on now, to what you want him to be on.
Some previous people have said you should have put your son on cow's milk at 12 months, but I disagree. Cows milk is great for growing baby cows. Human breast milk is great for growing human babies. But who wants to breastfeed for that long. Formula is actually better for young babies then cows milk, as it is designed for humans.
However, at 2 1/2, he is definately at an age where you can probably start to introduce changes slowly.
My daughter is 14 1/2 months old, and still has her bottle for milk. She would never breast feed so I expressed and bottle fed her from birth, so she has a strong attachment to her bottle. I'm not that worried about it. We will make slow changes along the way. She is still mostly on stage 3 formula too, as she is a picky eater.
She also has a blankie for sleeping and I don't see the issue with that. It makes it very easy when she/we stay somewhere different. She has her comfort with her.
So start to make the changes you think he is ready for, and I'm sure everything will work out fine.
Good luck,

Annette - posted on 11/25/2009

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My little girl is 14 months old. She is still on her bottle, and still on formula milk. We can not give her milk because just like me she is lactose tolarent. So it is easier to keep her on Isomil. She has 3 cups she use for water, and what ever cooldrink the cresh gives them to drink. We desided to start weening her this December holiday. It gives as 4 weeks to do so, and luckely grandma will also be there to help.

Dallas - posted on 11/25/2009

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When I was little my mom said my grandma dipped the tip of bottle in coffee grounds. Well I just started giving my son those Nuk sippy cups with the really soft spout when he turned a year. He didnt even know his bottle was gone. As for the binky my kid only gets his at night but is slowly not caring if he has it or not. As for the milk think for the first few months I used the toddler stuff GoodStart or something...I alternated it with whole milk and every now and agian I did put some kind of syrup in it. My son is almost 2 and has started potty training but still sleps in his crib because I prefer it. It's usually a give and take matter. Don't push them but try to encourage what you want.

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Someone asked who the parent is- good question! Only YOU can make this decision, and let no one judge you for it. My daughter gave up the bottle at 15 months, and she and I were both emotionally ready for it. Formula wise, it doesn't hurt anything for your child to keep drinking it- my daughter did becuase we had some left over and no one to give it to, so we used it up to a year and a half. And we still use the Stage 2 varieties and she is 18 months, as well as whole milk and juice (watered down, of course). Formula is healthy, so why sweat it? My pediatrician never worried too much, as long as my daughter is healthy. Only you and YOUR CHILD's doctor can make this decision, don't let strangers on a web page guilt you into doing anything.

Catherine - posted on 11/25/2009

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it's so difficult as the bottle (or breast) is such a comfort to children. my son gave up his night time bottle at just over 2 1/2. I had noticed that he was nolonger sucking it as he once was and felt he was nolonger getting the comfort from it - so we bought him a special cup for big boy milk. He had some nights where he wanted his bottle and that's when you have to be strong and stick to your guns. We started with his growing up formula in the cup and then moved to cows milk. He got to go to the shop with daddy and buy the milk and i think being part of the process helped. I think if your son still enjoys his milk from a bottle he should still have it - some children do not like cows milk and lets face it cows milk is perfect for cows not us! Go with your gut and follow his lead. If you think it's time then I would take him shopping for a special big boy cup. remember there is no shame in him still have his bottle and you are being a good mother meeting his needs. I know children who've had the bottle much longer! good luck!

Jessica - posted on 11/25/2009

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He is def to old to be taking formula and a bottle. Its time to wean him. My sister kept her son on the bottle until he was a little older than 2 because she didnt want him to grow up. Its def time for him to grow up. He will eventually drink something other than formula he is old enough to be on milk.

Tracey - posted on 11/25/2009

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hey hows it goin. personally i think he is ready.. he may not seem ready but, you haaave to be consistant. you may have to deal with a few nights of crying for his baba, but he will get over it.. its hard to hear them cry but trust me, if you STOP the formula he willlllll get over it. good luck =)

Shelagh - posted on 11/25/2009

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the simplest way to get him off the formula is to stop buying it. But that's a decision only you can make. My daughter was still on a bottle at 2 1/2 months (she'd voluntarily stopped using it just after her 2nd birthday, but that very night I was taken into hospital and with all the trauma etc she wanted her bottle back - perfectly reasonable). I got her off the bottle by showing her a worn-out teat when we were washing up one day, and telling her that the bottle was broken so tonight we'd have to use the beaker. Never looked back.

Good luck - time to let the little poppet grow up.

C. - posted on 11/25/2009

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I'm wondering why your 2 1/2 yr old is still on both formula AND a bottle?? Whole milk is supposed to be introduced to the child no later than 1 year of age. And Pediatricians recommend that you take babies off of their bottles and give them cups no later than 10 months (though most prefer you start that at 7 months).

Since you have already weened him off of the bottle during the day, it shouldn't be all that difficult to do this at night. Though it may take a few nights to a few weeks get used to it since you have gone so long giving him bottles at night. When you normally give your son a bottle, I am assuming that you cuddle with him, just introduce the cup instead of bottle. He may not want it at first, but he is 2 1/2, so he knows the word "no", or at least he should. You need to explain that he is a big boy, not a baby anymore, and big boys only drink from cups. Like I said, this may take some time trying to coax him into taking the cup, but well worth it in the end. But make him as comfortable as you can while giving him the cup.

For the formula, what we had to do when my son was a year, we took about 3 oz. of formula and 1 oz. of whole milk and mixed it together just to get him started. Within a week he was drinking 3 oz. of MILK and 1 oz. of formula. He soon realized that he did not like the combination and he was on whole milk within a week and a half of first introducing it to him. He can't get enough of his milk now.

Also, you asked if we think you are in too big of a hurry. I personally think waiting this long and trying to ween him off the bottle and formula, it may seem like you are hurrying to him. But in all reality, you should have been trying to gradually do these things before 12 months. So, no, it needs done.

Kristi - posted on 11/25/2009

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this shouldve been stopped at a year of age, inless he/she has special dietary needs

Kristi - posted on 11/25/2009

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whole milk, even if you have to "occaisionally", and I mean occaisionally, add chocolate syrup.

Alisha - posted on 11/25/2009

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You need to be the one refusing to allow this to go on any longer. My baby is only 11 months, and I'm just now realizing why some parents let their kids make the decisions, it "seems" easier than fighting with your child. Don't fight, just be the boss... It may be a hard couple weeks, but the kid WILL sleep without a bottle and he WILL drink something aside from formula, IF there are no bottles or formula to give... The fits will stop, and you will have a happy toddler that drinks milk from a cup ONLY :)

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Well first of all if he can ASK for his bottle he doesn't need it. You need to not worry so much about weening off the formula as you need to ween him off his bottle. The residue left on his teeth from his bottle with wear down the enamel. He can hold a cup and feed himself.. the bottle needs to go mom!

Kimmarie - posted on 11/25/2009

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I have one question who is the parent? I dont know why u didnt start taking him off at a year how did this go so far.Pediatrician should have told you whole milk after a year.Juice is the worst it rotts teeth try flavored water. Always whole milk for brain development.

Abbie - posted on 11/25/2009

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do you want him off his formula or bottle? He takes NO whole milk? Personally if he only on a bottle at night, I would start watering it down, we do that. My son loves his bottle; I don't care if he has a bottle at night, its one bottle- 4oz. plus its 90% water. I don't knwo anything about the formula you are giving but I also would start mixing the formula with whole milk to make the transition easier. He probably doesn't like the taste of the whole milk; but he needs it. I wouldn't push the other stuff, they are probably loaded with sugar!!! Also how much juice are you giving? Juice offers little to no nutritional value.



formula I would get him off............bottle I would do that slowly if he is ONLY on it at night. Some kids use a binkie til they are 4. so if 1 bottle at night is his comfy thing.......... i wouldn't worry.

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