How to stop my son from screaming when taking him to the bathroom

Farina - posted on 06/15/2012 ( 5 moms have responded )

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Hi everyone,

I am the mother of a 26 month old son;
I tried introducting him to Potty training months ago
but he hasn't been much interested.
Still if he pees in his diaper I take him
to his toilet seat where he pees more and after
that I change his diaper.

Problem is whenever I take him to the bathroom
to pee or clean his poop he starts screaming; jumping and
manyt times hitting me too. I tried grabbing his hands and feets
but it is such a struggle. Even scolded him saying no;
but no use.
I really dread taking him to the bathroom and sometimes
end up either very angry or with tears in my eyes.

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Brittney - posted on 06/15/2012

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I used to have to carry my 16 month old into the bathroom kicking and screaming if she had a poop accident. I needed to give her a bath in order to clean her up. I would stop using diapers, then once you're using underwear he may understand if he doesn't want to be wet or soiled he needs to go potty in the potty. Also what kind of potty are you using? The big toilet may be intimidating at this age (Ruby actually preferred it to her little potty) The little potty is close to the ground. He may not want to use the little potty because no one else goes in it, he may want to be a big boy and use the big potty.

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Sarah - posted on 06/15/2012

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He`s NOT READY yet. Most boys actually potty train between 3-4 years of age. There are so many things he needs to be ready to do first. Physically (can he hold it, recognize when he needs to go, know what it's for?), Socially (Does he want to use the potty?), Emotionally (Is he ready to give up diapers?). So many of these questions I could answer for you as NO simply by your post of his reactions. By forcing him, you actually will traumatize him and make him more unlikely and less ready to do it. Step back, leave him alone, and he'll let you know when he's ready. He's just not yet, and that's okay. If you get comments from friends or family (we did - my son was 3y3m before he was ready, at 3y9m he's still not at night yet) then simply tell them he's not ready yet and when he is, then he'll do it. Keep the potty accessible (in his room, the bathroom, by the tv, wherever). Let him come in with you when you go potty. He'll do it eventually, but this is one of those things that needs to be done when he's ready, not when you're ready. Good luck!

Dove - posted on 06/15/2012

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I've never had to change a child's diaper in the bathroom, so I don't see why he HAS to go in there except for bath time... and even that can be improvised if he's that freaked out over a room.

All I can go off of is what you said in the op and you said you are taking him potty....

Farina - posted on 06/15/2012

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Thanks for the reply Dove and Brittney.
Dove, he behaves the same way even if I take him there to clean.
Its not that I try to train him; but even when I want to clean him after
he does potty ; he doesn't want to go there.
You can imagine I cannot clean such a big boy in the bedroom.

Dove - posted on 06/15/2012

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Stop taking him into the bathroom if it is that upsetting for him. By doing this you may be very well sabotaging all your future potty training attempts. At 26 months old, he could still be 6-12 months away from being ready. Some kids DO potty train by his age or even earlier, but many others are 3... or older.



Leave the bathroom open when you or your partner are using it, so that he can wander in and see what's up IF he is comfortable w/ that. You can talk about using the toilet and such, but keep it VERY low pressure.



Scolding or punishing should not be connected with the potty training process.

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